SillySquirrel Posted February 4, 2016 Posted February 4, 2016 Okay so my situation is a little complicated. I was with this man for 2.5 years. He was my first love, my first kiss, my first everything. We lived together for almost a year. Two weeks ago, I left him. Why, you ask? He had anger issues and after countless efforts to try to get him to go seek help I gave up. So I moved back in with my parents. I don't regret my decision but I still think of my ex often. It can get hard at times. Fast forward... this weekend that just passed, I went out with friends. And OF COURSE... because my love life wasn't already in a mess, I met a guy. We had so much fun dancing and singing and drinking together. When I couldn't drink or dance any more, we went outside and we talked for a good 40 minutes about life. Oh and he told me I was beautiful. It was hella romantic and cheesy. And we had so many life goals and dreams in common. And then we kissed. My ex's face popped into my face and I had this intense urge to vomit. I pulled away and apologised and told him everything. He understood. We went back inside and partied some more. When the bar closed, we parted ways. He invited me to meet him at the same bar in 2 weeks if I was interested. And ever since I can't get my mind off of him. I'll be honest. I had more fun than I've ever had with my ex that night. And we had so much in common. But I don't think I'm ready and I don't want to drag an innocent guy into my messy life. And then there's the fact that the guy isn't my type physically. He's not unattractive but he's the complete opposite than what I'm usually into. He's more... cute. I'm into big, tall, "manly" men if that makes any sense. Oh and he's younger than me which actually bothers me a little.. What do I do? :(:(
todreaminblue Posted February 4, 2016 Posted February 4, 2016 exes are exes for a reason......i think you should give this new guy a chance...who you were attracted to before has gotten you exes....so maybe trying a guy who doesnt fit the mold is a way for you to see.....looks arent everything and actually having common interests and fun is a wonderful thing to grow on..the fact you cant stop thinking about him means something important and could be far more important to you now than your ex in the past...trust me......and i wish you well....deb
d0nnivain Posted February 4, 2016 Posted February 4, 2016 They say the fastest way to get over somebody is to get under somebody else. If you want to date this other guy AND You think you can kiss him without the urge to vomit, do so. However, the fact that you had such a visceral physical reaction to the kiss, tells me you are no where near ready to date & this will most likely end in disaster.
bigbaby Posted February 4, 2016 Posted February 4, 2016 Well you DID have a great time with him so I don't see why you couldn't again. Also, the drinking may have had a bit to do with the urge to vomit, you know!
Lois_Griffin Posted February 4, 2016 Posted February 4, 2016 Honestly? He's a bar guy. It's not going to become a full blown, long term possibly permanent kind of thing. Go have fun with him.
Erik30 Posted February 4, 2016 Posted February 4, 2016 The new guy is a rebound, a nice distraction from your ex. You only left your boyfriend two weeks ago. I guess you can have fun with this guy if you want, just be honest about it with him.
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