Apparition Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 This is something I wrote out in a rant in order to get it off my chest but I do not plan on sending it. These are the things I wish I had said. How dare you. Who do you think you are to come into my life making all these promises, lying to my face each day telling me you loved me and always will. How dare you say one minute that I'm the most beautiful person you've ever known and then rip my heart out the next minute. What gives you the right to make me fall in love with you only for you to throw me away after five years like none of what we shared happened. How dare you tell me you have never loved anyone like this and will never want another when most likely you will end up in the arms of another, perhaps in a week, perhaps in a month, perhaps in a year. How dare I still love you after you break me. 4
Brando Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 This is something I wrote out in a rant in order to get it off my chest but I do not plan on sending it. These are the things I wish I had said. How dare you. Who do you think you are to come into my life making all these promises, lying to my face each day telling me you loved me and always will. How dare you say one minute that I'm the most beautiful person you've ever known and then rip my heart out the next minute. What gives you the right to make me fall in love with you only for you to throw me away after five years like none of what we shared happened. How dare you tell me you have never loved anyone like this and will never want another when most likely you will end up in the arms of another, perhaps in a week, perhaps in a month, perhaps in a year. How dare I still love you after you break me. Ya, good to write bad to send.......check out the thread I made yesterday about replying to my ex after she text me. I almost lit into her, but would have just made a fool of myself. Go check out the "Need quick!!!" thread I made yesterday. I received some great advice. Let it out on here just like you are...it's good for you and us! I read your thread and I thought "Yup, know how that feels!" 2
CDJ Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 How dare you. Who do you think you are to come into my life making all these promises, lying to my face each day telling me you loved me and always will. How dare you say one minute that I'm the most beautiful person you've ever known and then rip my heart out the next minute. What gives you the right to make me fall in love with you only for you to throw me away after five years like none of what we shared happened. How dare you tell me you have never loved anyone like this and will never want another when most likely you will end up in the arms of another, perhaps in a week, perhaps in a month, perhaps in a year. How dare I still love you after you break me. I heard all the same things from my ex as you did from yours. For some people, such words are easy to say without truly meaning them. Unfortunately, rather than just typing my responses in a forum as you have, I sent mine to my ex on a couple of occasions So, yeah, vent here. Best place to do it! 2
Author Apparition Posted February 3, 2016 Author Posted February 3, 2016 Let me guess, CDJ, she either ignored them or replied very angrily?
Paradigm Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Let me guess, CDJ, she either ignored them or replied very angrily? What she thinks or feels, and how she reacts does not matter. You'd hurt yourself more by sending it.
d0nnivain Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Good for you for writing all that down & posting it here instead of sending it. Continue to verbally purge if it makes you feel better. May I suggest taking what you have written printing it out & in a safe place, like a fireplace, burning it. Watching the pages turn to ash & the smoke rise can be cathartic. 2
Author Apparition Posted February 3, 2016 Author Posted February 3, 2016 Paradigm, I did not say I was sending it, which I specifically said in my thread. I was asking someone who wrote on my post how their ex reacted, which is allowed, since he DID say that (what I wrote). Good idea, d0nnivain, but honestly, I don't have that much energy right now. I'm mostly laying in bed trying to get better from the man-flu.
d0nnivain Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 . I'm mostly laying in bed trying to get better from the man-flu. OMG. Not the man-flu. The most disabling disease known to mankind. Yikes! Feel better. 1
CDJ Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 What she thinks or feels, and how she reacts does not matter. You'd hurt yourself more by sending it. Exactly right. She to'd and fro'd from being apologetic, to blaming me for what she did; from wanting to meet and talk to, brushing me off/ignoring me; from showing sympathy, to accusing me of being irrational (even though I'd been traumatised and humiliated). By contacting her in the way I did, I allowed her to flip the situation whereby suddenly I was the one grovelling and feeling bad. No contact and keeping your mouth shut is the best way to go, if only to stop you making thing worse. 2
Paradigm Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Paradigm, I did not say I was sending it, which I specifically said in my thread. I was asking someone who wrote on my post how their ex reacted, which is allowed, since he DID say that (what I wrote). I know that, I never said you were sending it lol sorry for confusing you Those are just my thoughts if you did consider sending it. 2
Author Apparition Posted February 3, 2016 Author Posted February 3, 2016 I would never consider saying anything at this point. Everything has been said and I'm glad it was left on a good note between us even if I am angry/sad/frustrated. Her decision was made, if she where ever to change that decision she knows where to find me and how and it will take more than a simple, "I miss you" to get me to speak to her. I won't fall for breadcrumbs. 2
DarkHorizon Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 I would never consider saying anything at this point. Everything has been said and I'm glad it was left on a good note between us even if I am angry/sad/frustrated. Her decision was made, if she where ever to change that decision she knows where to find me and how and it will take more than a simple, "I miss you" to get me to speak to her. I won't fall for breadcrumbs. Awesome. That's exactly how I feel in my situation as well 2
Author Apparition Posted February 3, 2016 Author Posted February 3, 2016 Haven't read yours yet, Dark. Going to do so now. : )
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