Jesse101 Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Girlfriend making me wait for sex is kind of taking a toll on me. It's already been two month and she still says she wants to wait a while and I'm not sure why. she claims that she loves me to death and all that but her making me wait kind of has me bumming and questioning it. I want to talk to her about it but I don't want to sound like I'm pressuring her. It does make me a little angry and when she asks me what wrong I don't want to be like " you won't have sex with me " and sound like a dick head. I love her very much and am willing to wait but i just don't understand. So why do you girls want to wait excessive amounts of time. I'm guessing she wants to wait 6-8 months which sucks.
salparadise Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Well, there's a theory about buying a cow vs. getting free milk that a lot of women subscribe to. I take it that she's experienced and of sufficient age that being sexually active is not a life stage issue? This is one of those untouchable topics, a no win for the guy. You will be villainized if you pressure her for sex, but if you do nothing then you're not getting your needs met in the relationship. Expressing your feelings is acceptable, but that doesn't really change anything. Regardless, I think you need to say how you feel and ask her for an explanation... and how long she intends to make you wait. The only power you have here is to say, sorry, a sexless relationship is not what I want and wish her well.
Author Jesse101 Posted February 3, 2016 Author Posted February 3, 2016 Well, there's a theory about buying a cow vs. getting free milk that a lot of women subscribe to. I take it that she's experienced and of sufficient age that being sexually active is not a life stage issue? This is one of those untouchable topics, a no win for the guy. You will be villainized if you pressure her for sex, but if you do nothing then you're not getting your needs met in the relationship. Expressing your feelings is acceptable, but that doesn't really change anything. Regardless, I think you need to say how you feel and ask her for an explanation... and how long she intends to make you wait. The only power you have here is to say, sorry, a sexless relationship is not what I want and wish her well. But she's not experienced. She's still a virgin. Not sure if that changes your take on it or not.
PegNosePete Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 It's already been two month she claims that she loves me to death I love her very much Huh, after only 2 months? 2
Toodaloo Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 But she's not experienced. She's still a virgin. Not sure if that changes your take on it or not. Yeah - you need to wait longer. 2
WaitingForBardot Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 But she's not experienced. She's still a virgin. Not sure if that changes your take on it or not. Is this a trick question? ..lol.. Yes, you need to be more patient. It is possible to show her that you want her in that way while simultaneously being patient, not pushy, and respectful of her desires. 1
PogoStick Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Either you're willing to wait or you're not. I'd be moving on. 1
Gaeta Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 But she's not experienced. She's still a virgin. Not sure if that changes your take on it or not. If she is a virgin than it's normal she wants to wait a long time. How old is she? Longer women wait to have sex a bigger deal it is for them. She probably also think the man she will have sex with is the man she will spend the rest of her life with. Do you understand this is not just having sex for her? 1
scrapbooker Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Disclaimer: I am a dinosaur who dated well before the 3rd date rule. Even in 2016, sex is actually meaningful and a big decision for some people. They don't view it like a handshake. So for a girl who is a virgin who wants sex to actually mean something besides an orgasm, 2 months is not that long. Actually, if she were here I would advise her to find a man who values her as she is and doesn't refer to her as someone who is "making him wait." I applaud her for still valuing herself enough not to go alleycatting all over the place. 1
Toodaloo Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 I applaud her for still valuing herself enough not to go alleycatting all over the place. Completely off topic but I want to be an alley cat... Big sigh... 2
scrapbooker Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Completely off topic but I want to be an alley cat... Big sigh... I'm no longer a virgin so I might could pull off being an alleycat if that was my personality (I'm too heart-on-sleevy). This girl is a virgin, so she is probably waiting until she knows she loves her "first." The romantic person in me likes that idea.
Toodaloo Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 I'm no longer a virgin so I might could pull off being an alleycat if that was my personality (I'm too heart-on-sleevy). This girl is a virgin, so she is probably waiting until she knows she loves her "first." The romantic person in me likes that idea. Honey I lost my V card before most of you were born... I want to be an alley cat! Just once in a while... Before the V card was flipped forget it! 1
d0nnivain Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 But she's not experienced. She's still a virgin. Not sure if that changes your take on it or not. Honey is she is still a Virgin. Characterizing your two month wait as "excessive" tells me you aren't worthy of her V card. You just want to get your rocks off and you have absolutely no understanding of what losing virginity means to some women. With a virgin you need to be prepared to wait at least a YEAR. You clearly are not. End things with her gently because you are not compatible. 4
Northwestern1011 Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 But she's not experienced. She's still a virgin. Not sure if that changes your take on it or not. Does anyone else besides me get kind of upset reading this? That somehow OP is convinced that "2 months is a long wait" for someone who's never had intercourse before? OP the fact you think she should just drop everything and immediately give up something to you that she's managed to hold onto until now, for you, all because you've gone out for 2 months. That's super egocentric of you, IMO. You knew she was a virgin when out started dating. So either be willing to wait, and do other things, or leave and prove to her you weren't worth the wait! FYI--2 months equals about 8 weeks. Let's do some simple math. Say you're seeing the girl 2 times a week. That means you've been with this person a max of 16 times. That's not exactly a lot to expect her to be willing to something very vulnerable with you. 4
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