ztyballer420 Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 So pretty much for starters here we go, i need help from the internet. So i met this girl at my college she is 18 i am 20 years old i am a good looking cat been told by a lot of people. I've had sex many times. So for starters i meet this girl and she cheated on her boyfriend with me and then started to love me in about a month i could tell after 2 months i told her "you're in love with me huh" then she said she just wanted it to be special that's why she didn't tell me. Then we hit a rough patch in the fields. Her brother got hit by a car on NYE and then on NYE we were in LA for a Rave and we live Nor-cal i ended up going to jail that night. and she waited for me but didnt stay up for me. Then i got the news of her brother dying and was there for her from the start since day one. 2 weeks after she got home she said she was staying home for the night, but then it turns out she wasn't home and chilled with her ex-bf that she hasn't seen in 3 years keep in mind they broke up when she was 15. So of course he wants her cause shes grown up now. So she lied to me then i forgave her she said she didn't have her phone all night and didn't see my texts or calls. Then we had sex then i checked her phone and she was texting her mom all night. So she lied to my face again and she lied about her ex she said it was some dude she hasn't seen for a really long time. So when she lied to me she said i just didn't want to talk to you or be with you that night, when i was there day one for her, not her ex. Then i forgave her again and she came over the next night saying how sorry she was. So we had sex again and then she started to cry because she said it was the best sex she's ever had in her life. Then the next day she wanted to go to her friends house and spend the night. I went over there and wasn't welcome i had to leave when her brother left because he went to a rave a rave that i wanted her to go to with me. So then i asked her friends brother if he could take me, he said the car is full, but i walked out and there was 2 seats open. (strange?) I was already ****ed up that night so i smoked a bowl and left she didn't show me any affection that night or didn't tell me she loved me or walked me out. she just said "is that it"? when i left. and i said yeah and forgot about it. I was mad that night so i called her saying i can't trust you anymore because you can't even pick up the phone. Then i started to drink and said some really mean ****. Long story short of 4 voicemails that were 5 minutes long each, i called her a whore a bad actor cause i thought she was at the rave, then i said i hope by you lying makes you get over your brothers death cause he aint proud of you. So then she called me saying don't hit me up for a month the next night. I was coked out so i really didn't give a ****. Then we ****ed a week later she says she loves me and cares about me and is in love with me but she doesn't want to emotionally attatched to anybody because of what has happened. But she says she still in love with me and loves me. She showed me no affection at school today and i asked her why? she said i thought that's what you wanted... that's why i havn't shown you anything or let my guard down, i can tell she don't look at me the same, she says she wants to be friends so pretty much restarting from the start where we were. When she started to cheat on her BF. So IDK WTF TO DO SOMEBODY GIVE ME ANSWERS. and keep in mind everything about me what i do what i say what i eat what i like. she likes and does everything that i do. We're very similar. Super similar i've never met somebody in my whole life as a human being who has had so much in common. Honestly though is she confused or is she playing with me emotions? She says i need to calm down, but she said if she shows me signs of effections that i feel she is playing me, but i feel she is playing games right now. Somebody tell me what to do.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 First of all, you need to smarten up and get a handle on your emotions. In a big way - don't ever use her brother's death to insult her. That was so inappropriate, no matter how angry you were. You don't understand the pain of her loss if you can make such an insensitive comment. She is experiencing some awful emotions in connection with her brother dying; using that death against her is way out of line. Second, she cheated on her boyfriend with you. And then hung out with exes behind your back. You already know you can't trust her, and she isn't ready to be with just one person. Why do you keep going back? She's showing you through her actions she's not committed to you. She can't play with your feelings if you don't let her. Third, she's not confused. But she's not in love, either. Girls who are in love don't tell you they only want to be friends. Sorry, OP, but you need to let her go. She's not into you the way you are into her. Forth, take a step back and look at your own behaviour. Getting tossed in jail, drinking to the point of leaving ranting voice mails and showing up where you're not welcome...all big turn-offs. You would be wise to examine how all of that comes across to others, especially to girls. I don't think she was angel by any means, but you attract what you project. Know what I mean? Go No Contact with her and keep it that way. 1
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