RedRider600 Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 I've fallen head over heels over a girl at work....I've never been through anything like this before because she "pursued" me first not the other way around. The first time I saw her, I thought nothing special about her. Every time I would catch her looking at me with seductive eyes, personal space would not exist between us, she was always willing to help me. One day (and with me even knowing her very well, I don't even think I knew her name at that point) she told me that she was "cold". She wrapped her hands around me to "show me" and the she placed them on the tip of her nose. The more I talked to her, the more I fell for her because we have a lot in common. Till this day I can't stop thinking about her. Recently it all starting falling apart. About two weeks ago, she started acting cold towards me. So last week I asked her out to lunch and her reaction was smile both facial and with the eyes it was kinda like her saying "aw how cute, he's asking me out". She told me she was busy with school though she never actually said "no". Later on that night it seemed like her interest might have been rekindling....Although she was still kind of cold we spoke, she warmed up a bit, she played with her hair the entire time, land I even got her number. The next day when I saw her she was acting distant again...We had somewhat of a good conversation. It was cold again and she "showed me her neck" (actually she was showing me that she was wearing three thermals") Later on that day she went cold again and this time started being a jerk. She started to completely ignore me, gave me one word answers, and at one point even snapped at me, and it seemed like my presence bothered her...Is it that Im giving her too much attention? Maybe I'm giving out a weird vibe because I'm in love and get so nervous around her?.....At the end of the day she said "When will I see you again on Tuesday (her next day on)?"....We spoke a little bit more then she left.....I love this chick so much and while there may be other guys that after just a piece of azz...I like this girl for more than her beauty......I don't know what to do....
smudge21 Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Rough guess, but sounds to me like she goes for the attention and nothing more. At first you didn't show her any, so that intrigued her and made her work harder. Once you started responding, she backed off. I would imagine if you now backed off, she'd come back again. It's game playing, push/pull and it's really sad and annoying, even more so when you develop feelings for someone. Don't say you love her, you have feelings for her, maybe some lusting too, but not love as you don't know her. Plus, she's teased you and got you hooked then pulled back. You've loved that attention and she's pulled it away so you miss it, which in turn makes you want it more.. and her too. I'd say back away and see what happens, even talk to other girls. Don't let her see that she can play you. If she comes calling again, just treat her the same and laugh it off, but then carry on with your life. At some point it will come to a head and maybe then you can address the situation, but for now, just see what she does. 2
ExpatInItaly Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Are you sure she's actually single? I agree with the other poster that she likes the attention, but doesn't seem to want more. But then again, did you call after getting her number? She might be confused by you, too. If she gave you her number, she was probably hoping to hear from you. But a question - how do you love her without even knowing her very well? At best, you've got a big crush. Don't get too attached too soon.
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