Do you think naivety and cluelessness can be cute in some situations?

[HeatherHope]

I think some naivety, cluelessness, innocence (whatever you want to call it) can be endearing in younger women if it's accompanied by other traits. I can see why others might feel differently but I'm curious about how a guy would feel about a woman like that in this particular situation.

 

Lets just say a guy has this girl he's dating and she's pretty awesome. Nice, fun and open minded. He takes her to meet his family and they don't like her for some reason. They make an effort to make it very obvious but are still civil with her. The hints go right over the girls head and she assumes they LOVE her and she starts acting very friendly and buddy buddy with them. If you were the guy in that kind of situation what would you think? Would her cluelessness about his families real feelings be a turn off or would you find it cute that she likes them and thinks they like her? Would you tell her the truth or see no reason to?

[Robratory]

Neither one. If I were the guy, I'd disown my family.

[Grewd]

You left one option out, the one I would have picked. I would have had a talk with my family about it, asked em straight up why they don't like her if I could feel confident that was the case. If it was about naivety I would tell them I dislike their condescending attitude taking my girlfriend to be an idiot.

 

There's lesser wrongdoing in being nice, fun and open minded than in being rude, judgmental and close minded. My feelings and view about the girl I'm dating wouldn't change much if at all.

 

I would shield the girl I dated from it, not accepted this behavior of my family and eventually pushed them away if they didn't back down. In that case I would have told her the truth, probably before going so far as to reject "bad apples" in my family.

Edited February 3, 2016 by Grewd

[WaitingForBardot]

Is it possible she's smarter than you think? You know, along the lines of keep your friends close but your enemies closer.

[Hughes101]

I would be much more concerned about why my family got a bad vibe from her.

 

But then again my family probably wouldn't even tell me if they did.

 

Maybe she does know they don't like her.

 

Why not talk to your family about her /ask them what they think about her

[ExpatInItaly]

I'm not a man, but I generally don't find naivety cute. I ususally take it to mean the person needs more life experience, which isn't a bad thing. But I don't see how that is relevant here. Being clueless isn't a romantic quality.

 

Why doesn't the family like her? Perhaps she does know and is trying to make the best of it. Maybe the family sees something in her that the boyfriend doesn't and has a right to be concerned. Maybe the family are a bunch of judgmental tools.

 

I would talk to my family and try to find out why, before saying anything to her.