sowhatwedonow Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 So there's this new girl in my work. We are about the same age, talk to each other alot in work and outside work. We hang out alot during work its just a little difficult for her to go out because of her parents and what not. I cant say i dont like her, shes smart, beautiful, fun and amazing and just a great free spirit. Shes so nice and just wow. My precious relationship ended about a year ago, wasnt good and i am over my ex 100%. She had a bf also but nothing serious a few months ago. So bottom line. I like her. I enjoy spending time with her. How do i take this beyond friendship? Btw we only have a few months there again as we are interns, i dont want this to turn out bad and thinhs get awkward between us. So any help wud be great. Thank you.
truth_seeker Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 She's single... you're single... suggest getting a bite to eat after work or during one of your breaks. The idea to grow the connection between you two. Do you both have any common interests? Do you like similar music? Is there a band playing at a pub or bar you can suggest you two go together to see play? Find out what she likes doing on her free time, do some research and suggest doing something together. Example: she likes art. Look up art gallery shows. Mention to her you saw something online and was interested in going. See if she would want to go.
Author sowhatwedonow Posted February 3, 2016 Author Posted February 3, 2016 We do go out for lunch sometimes and just hang out and talk. We have alot of similarities and all that. I think its kinda a me thing too. Idk how to really approach women when it comes to dating or getn srs. My ex and i were skl lovers and she left me. I'm not sure how my ex and I even got together we just talked a lot. So yeah my experience with women is a bit lacking. There are a lot of things we do I just don't know how to turn it up and take it further. I don't have a car tho
yxalitis Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 We do go out for lunch sometimes and just hang out and talk. We have alot of similarities and all that. I think its kinda a me thing too. Idk how to really approach women when it comes to dating or getn srs. My ex and i were skl lovers and she left me. I'm not sure how my ex and I even got together we just talked a lot. So yeah my experience with women is a bit lacking. There are a lot of things we do I just don't know how to turn it up and take it further. I don't have a car tho Look her in the eyes, hold her gaze, and say: "Hey, you want to go on a date" Sound (and be) confident. No point in dancing about the bush with silly games, just ASK HER!
thejabberwocky Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 As someone who also has a huge crush on a coworker at my job, ask her to hangout outside of work. As in getting dinner, going to a movie, etc. You don't have to say "date" just yet - you barely know each other. Hangout a few times and let it happen organically!
smudge21 Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Try not to get too deeply emotional over her just yet. Just ask her out after work, a social thing. From there, mention meeting up at a weekend, during the day. Also remember that there's two people here, so try not to do all the running and let her make some effort. Try not to overthink the whole early dating process as I reckon we all get those nerves and feel unsure - as far as you know, she's thinking the exact same way right now and is also asking for advice.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 We do go out for lunch sometimes and just hang out and talk. We have alot of similarities and all that. I think its kinda a me thing too. Idk how to really approach women when it comes to dating or getn srs. My ex and i were skl lovers and she left me. I'm not sure how my ex and I even got together we just talked a lot. So yeah my experience with women is a bit lacking. There are a lot of things we do I just don't know how to turn it up and take it further. I don't have a car tho If you've already gone for lunch and it went well, ask her out for dinner.
Author sowhatwedonow Posted February 3, 2016 Author Posted February 3, 2016 Well we talk a lot Go out for lunch and ice cream and all that. She starts a lot of the convos outside work messaging me and stuff. Maybe she likes me too lol. I do take her out just never really went on a date. So I'm hoping to take it to the next stage. Idk if its gonna happen naturally.
truth_seeker Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Well we talk a lot Go out for lunch and ice cream and all that. She starts a lot of the convos outside work messaging me and stuff. Maybe she likes me too lol. I do take her out just never really went on a date. So I'm hoping to take it to the next stage. Idk if its gonna happen naturally. I think you need to substitute ice cream for wine. Set the mood for some action
Author sowhatwedonow Posted February 3, 2016 Author Posted February 3, 2016 She doesn't drink and its a bit hard for her to to out. So guess I'm gonna have to make my move at work. But how :/ ??
mortensorchid Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 If you like her, ask her to hang out with you outside of work. As long as you keep things on the downlow with others at the workplace, it's ok to do so.
d0nnivain Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 My precious relationship ended about a year ago, wasnt good and i am over my ex 100%. She had a bf also but nothing serious a few months ago. Who has a BF? Your fellow intern or your EX GF? If your fellow intern has a BF, stay away. If your EX has a new BF, why do you know this? If it's because you two are still "friends" on social media unfriend her immediately. Until you do that you really aren't over her because you still have a connection. As for all the advice about not dating at work, that applies to your lifelong career, not the place where you are interning. So as long as you promise to remain professional at work, it's fine to date her. Next time you are hanging out, simply ask her on a proper date. If she says no, leave it be. Do not pursue or work HR may have to get involved.
Author sowhatwedonow Posted February 3, 2016 Author Posted February 3, 2016 Idk anything about my ex. We don't talk and I could care less. She wanted a life without me so I'm kool with that. I have no time to waste behid insignificant ppl. And the girl at work is single she just dated a guy for a very short while and that was like a year ago.
NYC-BigKat Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 So there's this new girl in my work. We are about the same age, talk to each other alot in work and outside work. We hang out alot during work its just a little difficult for her to go out because of her parents and what not. I cant say i dont like her, shes smart, beautiful, fun and amazing and just a great free spirit. Shes so nice and just wow. My precious relationship ended about a year ago, wasnt good and i am over my ex 100%. She had a bf also but nothing serious a few months ago. So bottom line. I like her. I enjoy spending time with her. How do i take this beyond friendship? Btw we only have a few months there again as we are interns, i dont want this to turn out bad and thinhs get awkward between us. So any help wud be great. Thank you. Uh...its gonna get awkward really really fast if u tell her how much u like her & stuff. I did things like that before & the girls always acted weird afterwards so don't do it if u want things to stay normal at work.
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