barbossa Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 If I am in a serious exclusive relationship with a girl for more than 1 year and she doesn't mention anything about me or share pictures of us together on her social media does it mean anything? Meanwhile she is very active shows herself in bikini pics, food pictures, family pictures, her with male friends, Does it mean anything?
basil67 Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Is this the girl who broke up with you a few weeks back?
GorillaTheater Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 I'm tempted to say that it doesn't matter; it's just FB, right? Nobody cares about stuff like that, right? And if I was to say that, I'd probably be right. But sh*t like this has a way of getting in your head, I know. I finally got on FB for two reasons: one, to keep an eye on my teenage daughter and two, because to look at my wife's FB page you'd have no idea she was married. I told myself that it was silly to wonder about it, but I did anyways. Turned out we had some issues to work on. I'm not convinced the husbandless FB page was a symptom of that, but I suspect it was. If I had to guess, I'd say your gf is disconnected from you to one extent or another. My wife was. 2
GorillaTheater Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Is this the girl who broke up with you a few weeks back? Dammit. I pour my guts out only to learn new Fun Facts.
truth_seeker Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 If she has 1000 or more friends, and lots of these friends are young guys, you should be concerned. To her you're guy she's dating - not committed to. Why don't you make an announcement on your FB page? Post you're in a relationship with her. FB will send her a notification to accept that and it will go public.
SwordofFlame Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 If she's an active user than yes you should be concerned. 2
loveweary11 Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 It means she doesn't see you as someone she is proud of, sees a future with or has pride in showing as a boyfriend. It can also mean she is talking to dudes on the side. I'd be very suspicious. 1
strawberryshortstack Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 It means she doesn't see you as someone she is proud of, sees a future with or has pride in showing as a boyfriend. It can also mean she is talking to dudes on the side. I'd be very suspicious. or it could just mean that she feels her relationship status isn't anyone's business but her own (and the guy she's involved with). 2
thecrucible Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Since I am youngish and fairly social media savvy, I would take it to be a bit of an amber flag. Myself and my friends are on Facebook every day and while I wouldn't pressure a guy into putting in online (I don't put much stock in online declarations of love), I'd expect there to be mention of it at some point. With my last BF he was the one that persuaded me to have it on Facebook (I didn't actually want to do it as I didn't see the point). I would probably just make sure my relationship status didn't read "single" and then the odd mention of a man would occur but it wouldn't be OTT. OP, does she share any pictures with you at all or use an image of both of you as a profile picture? If I had a boyfriend, I'd expect there to be a together photo somewhere among it all even if it was just one photo. But yeah I also tend to agree that Facebook isn't the be all end all. It's hard to fully advise without knowing more about the OP's relationship.
loveweary11 Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 or it could just mean that she feels her relationship status isn't anyone's business but her own (and the guy she's involved with). Right. That means a guy who means nothing to her, she's embarrassed of showing her friends and/or wants to hide so she can "keep her options open." No one hides their relationship unless they feel their partner is a) an embarrassment or b) someone temporary. 1
loveweary11 Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 People... she's editing out every single picture where this guy appears. Come on... lol Naïve.
truth_seeker Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 girl likes to show off pics of herself in a bikini... has lots of guy friends... no mention of OP being her boyfriend... lets be real: she's dating OP... for now. 1
SwordofFlame Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Not at all because some people like their relationship private and not have their business all out there. These people tend to either be not on social media at all or sparsely active. Doesn't sound like OP's girl at all.
mortensorchid Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Not at all because some people like their relationship private and not have their business all out there. I was going to say the same thing. After a while learning a few lessons on social media (and don't say you haven't), some of us want a little more privacy which is hard to do anymore in the world we live in now. Even if you're not on Facebook, people talk anyway. As to relationship status? I know a few people out there who keep their relationship status private, I know some who put "in a relationship" on their profiles in order to keep others in the online world away from them by not attempting to "pick them up online". But in your case, it's what it is. In your heart you know that she is with you.
Tookietan Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 It's strange. Ask her about it and see how she reacts.
strawberryshortstack Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Right. That means a guy who means nothing to her, she's embarrassed of showing her friends and/or wants to hide so she can "keep her options open." No one hides their relationship unless they feel their partner is a) an embarrassment or b) someone temporary. showing no evidence is not the same as hiding. I don't post my relationship status on Facebook - it's just easier that way. Anyone who needs to know about it knows because we've told them. It has nothing to do with keeping my options open, being embarrassed, or wanting to hide. It's simply less drama.
loveflower Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 or it could just mean that she feels her relationship status isn't anyone's business but her own (and the guy she's involved with). Right...but her bikini body, family and male friends are everybody's business.
LookAtThisPOst Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 I would often wonder why some women, even married ones, you'd hardly or never see pictures of them with their sig. others/spouses. There would seem to be an over-saturation of her personal selfie pics take on a daily basis. I recall meeting a couple at a real life event, and I added them both on FB. A few months later, I saw she had no "relationship status" going on, and very minimal pictures of him and her together in the photos. I thought they broke up. LOL But she told me, no, they are still together and have been for 3, happy years. She just said, "In case we break up, it would just draw unwanted attention to us." So it was the fear of breaking up that kept their status obscured. But yeah, it is weird seeing someone with pictures OF only them. Even more strange, the person BEHIND the camera is their boyfriend, but what's the deal, they can't grab someone and say, "Hey , could you please take a picture of us....TOGETHER!" lol I recall a conversation a man had with a woman who had just gotten back from a trip to Europe. Every photo that was taken, was of only her. I think she had mentioned in the past she was "seeing" someone. And my friend asked her, "Who took the pictures, your boyfriend?" She attempted to deflect the question and even told him it was none of his business WHO was taking the picture. lol! I guess she had some kind of "travel companion" she didn't want to be seen with while on vacation in Europe.
NVO Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 I had a girlfriend once that did not show anything of me on her FB. Not even her relationship status. When I posted something on her timeline she would get angry with me. Turns out she was dating another guy at the same time, neither of us knowing. 1
burnt Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 If you had just said she didn't have you included in her FB, I would have said "good for her". I personally think it's ridiculous to paste your personal life out for display to the entire world to see. I don't have Facebook or any social media accounts to put my personal life on display. What I value I keep private. But, the girl you mention has her family, friends, and all that on FB; given that, if she doesn't have you included, that's a pretty subtle, but bold statement about show she sees you (or rather how she doesn't see you). Yes, I would be concerned.
acrosstheuniverse Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 If I am in a serious exclusive relationship with a girl for more than 1 year and she doesn't mention anything about me or share pictures of us together on her social media does it mean anything? Meanwhile she is very active shows herself in bikini pics, food pictures, family pictures, her with male friends, Does it mean anything? I don't think it means that much. I'm listed as in a relationship with my partner and occasionally tag him in check-ins and we have a few pictures up together but I'm not one to post photos of us, sweet couple statuses. I did all of that in a previous relationship and found it quite humiliating going from everyone having this image of us as a great couple to when he left me, it being obvious for all to see due to the sudden absence of anything related to him. These days I will declare a relationship on there but I can see why some people want to keep their relationships more private, especially if they're insecure. If it bothers you, talk to her about it.
Erik30 Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 It might not mean anything. I have some female friends who would probably appear to be single to people who don't know them very well. Some girls don't post about their relationship at all, while others want to show it to the whole world. I do have to say that I would be worried if she is very active online, frequently posting about her life, but never mentions you.
rockstar135 Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 People who say it doesn't mean much are being ridiculous. It's one thing if a person doesn't post much and is a private person in general, but she's posting pics of herself with Tom, Dick and Harry while there's nothing of you. That's not a coincidence and that has nothing to do with not wanting people to know your business. She might not even consider your relationship to be a relationship. Because guaranteed, when she finds a guy she actually wants to be with he will be up there along with her pics of food and bikini body. And the male friend pictures will suddenly disappear. 1
truth_seeker Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 This girl is "dating" OP... he's her hook up for now.
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