bulldog9 Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 I've been seeing someone (I'll refer to him as "A") I am crazy about for a little over a month. Absolutely no complaints, it's been great. It is ridiculous how much of a connection we have. There's a BUT. We live in NYC and he has to go to LA a lot for work and just started renting an apartment there so he can be bi-coastal (he's definitely single, no wife or kids or gf or anything sketchy). He just left for the next 3 weeks. I see long term potential with him, and he has implied he does with me as well. And also wants me to come to LA soon. But now my ex (I'll refer to him as "T") that moved from here to SF last year, but who has been trying to get back together with me (we have been trying to schedule getting together but I have been distant since I met this other guy), and is moving back here in May, he says he wants to come visit me 1st week of March. I am not sure what to do, because even though "A" and I haven't discussed being exclusive yet (we are sleeping together), we have sort of implied we are not sleeping with other people. And if "T" comes here, I wouldn't feel right about being intimate since I am seeing "A" even though we aren't technically exclusive and I don't know where things are going with him. I like them both very much, and I don't want to blow off either. It's too soon for me to know where things stand with "A", but "T" is in it for the long haul and wants me to be his girlfriend and possibly get a place together when he moves back. I guess my question is, would the best idea be to stall off "T" for a while so I can see how I feel about A"? I don't feel right about having him visit while I am seeing "A", and I don't want to have a long distance relationship (but for some reason I keep meeting guys that wind up in CA :roll eyes: I'm not trying to date both (i.e have my cake and eat it too), but I just really don't know which is the right one to invest my time in. I am not really sure how to buy more time on this guy visiting other than saying work will be busy, or, because I am having am medical procedure around that time, using that as an excuse. Or was thinking of just saying let's not start getting together until closer to the time he moves here because I don't want to do long distance relationship right now. What do you guys think?
truth_seeker Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 "T" already had his chance... there's a reason why he's your ex. 1
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