lovelylady555 Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 So I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 9 months and things have been going alright. I'm in my second semester of college, and I live about 3 hours from my boyfriend. Sometimes he and I struggle to communicate, but overall I know he loves me and I'm pretty sure I love him too. However, I've been getting increasingly close to this guy who lives in my dorm building. I know he's interested in me, and now I'm thinking I might be interested in him, too. The other night we stayed up talking for hours and hours, and sometimes when I'm talking to my boyfriend, I catch myself thinking about the other guy. I'm not sure if it's just the newness of the new guy mixed in with a boyfriend who lives far away and a lack of good communication, or if I don't actually love my boyfriend as much as I thought I did to begin with.
Buddhist Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 This happens to absolutely everyone who is ever in a relationship. The simple truth is there are many people in the world we can gel with romantically, odds are excellent you will meet one while you are committed to someone else. It's not meeting them that matters, what matters is what you decide to do about it, if anything at all. Sit with your emotions, listen to yourself and sort this out in your own head. It could mean something, it could mean nothing but no-one on LS can tell which it is. 2
Ara-bella Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 Out of curiosity, is this really so common? Posts like these, inflame my anxiety about relationships. My take is exactly what you said- you don't love him enough. The thought of liking someone else while I'm in my relationship mortifies me, I hope it would to my boyfriend too. Its my belief that is how it is when you're truly in love. Could it be that your boyfriend doesn't give you a lot of attention? Or the distance between you?
d0nnivain Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 A college LDR is hard to maintain because temptation is everywhere. Given the other guy's proximity I think you best decide what you want & act accordingly. If you want your relationship stay away from the guy in the dorm because it's just a matter of time before you cheat. It's too slippery of a slope. If you want you want the guy, end things with your BF 1
GunslingerRoland Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 I think having little crushes can be harmless when you are in a relationship, but that isn't how I would describe this. You are spending hours alone at night with a man you know wants you. This sounds like a borderline emotional affair. Honestly, your relationship sounds too new/weak to handle a LDR. 1
truth_seeker Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Your relationship with your boyfriend has run its course. If it hadn't, you wouldn't be thinking of this new guy.
PogoStick Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 That's normal for a college girl (guys too), especially when the bf lives 3 hours away. You want to experience other men and relationships. That's totally normal too. It's an important part of your college years. So breakup and have some fun. It will happen sooner or later anyways. 1
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