CadeYeager Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 So I've been talking to this girl who I met last week. We don't text 24/7, but we do from time to time. Last night was a good conversation that lasted until 2:30AM. I threw in that her and I should get together later this week. She accepted in a jokingly way, but it didn't set in with me completely as a "yes". Anyways... Her last text to me was just a winking face. I felt the ball was still in her court so I didn't respond and went to sleep. Forward to today I haven't heard from her. Yes I know that I should "relax" because she does work a 9-5. But I figure anyone could slip in a quick hello text, right? Am I crazy for thinking that? So I broke the ice yesterday by texting first. Now I'm waiting for her to do it just to give me a hint that she's still interested. I feel that if I don't hear from her today that I should just move on?
smackie9 Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 No, BUT you should be keeping your options open and date others still something sticks. 1
CarrieT Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 So I've been talking to this girl who I met last week. We don't text 24/7, but we do from time to time. Last night was a good conversation that lasted until 2:30AM. I threw in that her and I should get together later this week. She accepted in a jokingly way, but it didn't set in with me completely as a "yes". Anyways... Her last text to me was just a winking face. Explain something to me... Have you actually been TALKING to her or TEXTING? Because if you want to actually go out with her, you should TALK to her and invite her on a proper date. 1
Author CadeYeager Posted February 2, 2016 Author Posted February 2, 2016 Explain something to me... Have you actually been TALKING to her or TEXTING? Because if you want to actually go out with her, you should TALK to her and invite her on a proper date. I guess "texting" for a majority of the time we've known each other. Don't get me wrong, I would LOVE to drop a phone call on her but I'm a bit hesitant because I'm a bit uneasy about her interest. We don't really get a chance for face time because of our different school/work locations. We met through mutual friends.
lilmissjava Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 I'm not sure if there is "interest" as of yet. Maybe flirting over the past week and that's about it. Her last text was a winky face. It's your turn if you have to play these games. 1
Author CadeYeager Posted February 2, 2016 Author Posted February 2, 2016 I'm not sure if there is "interest" as of yet. Maybe flirting over the past week and that's about it. Her last text was a winky face. It's your turn if you have to play these games. Just a winKy face though? How does one respond to that. I'd be quick to flirt right back with her if there was a message following the wink face but there isn't really anything to go off of. Oh well... I know I'm overreacting.
kendahke Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 I guess "texting" for a majority of the time we've known each other. Don't get me wrong, I would LOVE to drop a phone call on her but I'm a bit hesitant because I'm a bit uneasy about her interest. You know what? You'll get the answer to your question way faster if you called her and gauged her voice rather than trying to divine assembled font on a screen. YOu won't waste a bunch of time on someone who is stringing you along with insipid winky emoticons. We don't really get a chance for face time because of our different school/work locations. We met through mutual friends. So you are both geographically undesirable. Might want to stick to girls within a 5 mile radius of where you live. 1
Author CadeYeager Posted February 2, 2016 Author Posted February 2, 2016 No, BUT you should be keeping your options open and date others still something sticks. So pretty much I shouldn't take this situation seriously?
Author CadeYeager Posted February 2, 2016 Author Posted February 2, 2016 You know what? You'll get the answer to your question way faster if you called her and gauged her voice rather than trying to divine assembled font on a screen. YOu won't waste a bunch of time on someone who is stringing you along with insipid winky emoticons. So you are both geographically undesirable. Might want to stick to girls within a 5 mile radius of where you live. You have a great point. You don't think it would come off as desperate? As of the location situation... IF things worked out it wouldn't be an issue. We live in the same city. It's just we work different jobs and attended different schools (within the city).
CarrieT Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 You have a great point. You don't think it would come off as desperate? As of the location situation... IF things worked out it wouldn't be an issue. We live in the same city. It's just we work different jobs and attended different schools (within the city). Call her. Talk to her. Invite her on a proper date. If she accepts, then there is something to build on. If she declines, you won't waste anymore time with silly text exchanges.
kendahke Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 You have a great point. You don't think it would come off as desperate? What? Calling her and asking her for a date? No. She'll either tell you "yes" and you make the plans or she's say "maybe", which means no or "no". "Yes is the only answer you're interested in. If she says "maybe" and you hang on with the texting, hoping that she'll come around and say "yes", then that is desperation. Don't participate in the "hanging on" game. That's how you know it's gone into desperation territory.
Author CadeYeager Posted February 2, 2016 Author Posted February 2, 2016 What? Calling her and asking her for a date? No. She'll either tell you "yes" and you make the plans or she's say "maybe", which means no or "no". "Yes is the only answer you're interested in. If she says "maybe" and you hang on with the texting, hoping that she'll come around and say "yes", then that is desperation. Don't participate in the "hanging on" game. That's how you know it's gone into desperation territory. I like that idea. So personally I don't want to "hang on" as you said in your post much longer. I want to get it short and to the point with her on making plans or not. I don't get out of class until 8ish. Would that be an acceptable time to shoot her a call? If so how should I go about it? I'm sorry for asking for a step by step but this is probably the most interested I've been in a girl for a while, while still feeling weary about it.
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