road Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Whoa! I never said he didn't want anything to do with the baby. I said he was done with me. And it was a birth control failure. The problem was not birth control failure. It was the failure to not have sex with a married man that was and is not free to be a full time dad you the OC/other child. 2
road Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Another example why being separated is not being divorced. Time after time threads are posted where people are foolish and date separated people and have sex with them, then get pregnant. Why, does no one learn from the mistakes of others?
SugarLips72 Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Were you having an affair with him then he left his wife? this sounds like a huge mess. Birth control is 99% effective when taken right. Funny how so many women claim they were on it when they got pregnant but it worked for me and I never conceived while on it. I dont blame the man for leaving. He has a kid with his ex he risks losing and you, who has gotten pregnant before he is even divorced. Madness it sounds like.
Miss Clavel Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 I've been dating someone for 8 months. We're both separated from our spouses and both filed for divorce. Right before New Years we found out I was pregnant. He told his wife he needed to go on and get their divorce finalized and that he was moving on with me and our baby. Well that's when the chaos started. After 2 years he says of silence on her end she all of a sudden she wanted her husband back. She starts calling and texting nonstop, showing up at his house, doing all kinds of stuff. She demanded that I have an abortion. He told her no and we're going to be together and keep the baby. In the meantime she's making me anxious, so I start fussing and telling him to get this under control. So now he has 2 women ranting. It finally came to a head this weekend when she showed up at his house and demanded I go home so they could talk. I refused and initially he told her I wasn't leaving. But then she has their daughter so this is getting out of hand in front of her. I eventually leave. Later on I get back to his house and we get into an argument. He finally says, I can't do this anymore I'm done. He says he doesn't want me anymore and he's done. I haven't heard from him since then. I feel lost over here. I now have a baby that I'm carrying and a father who will not deal with me. This is a mess. He says my insecurities have ruined our relationship. I had him but I wouldn't shut up. So I guess I'm asking, what should I do at this point? Give him space? Apologize? Cry, beg, plead? Move on? omg. sweet christ on a crutch. first, you are not alone. my instinct, before i even got to your fourth sentence, was, this will not turn out well. the fact that they carried on in front of you, a pregnant woman, not to mention their own daughter is very telling. the fact that they made you leave is also screwed up. if someone told me to leave anywhere, i would. forever. that's just me tho. i think the stbex wife is worried how he is going to support everyone and how a new baby is going to relate to their daughter. p.s. when someone tells you they "can't do this anymore" it means the arguing and uncertainty. wait. good luck.
RySant Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 I'm trying to figure out if this can be salvaged. I still love the man. Bad decisions always happens when you let emotions like these control your better judgement. I am not against you loving him, but that doesn't mean you should abandon your pride and dignity. You have to sort your problems first. You have a child, what are you gonna do with it? I am generally against abortion so I wouldn't suggest that but this is your body so it's up to you. Don't beg the man to come back. Love can never be begged. It's not like money that can be given anytime. If he loves you and his child, he'll go back to you. Goodluck! P.S. I want a child of my own. If I was just near your place, I would offer to adopt your kid and pay for all pre-delivery and delivery expenses hahaha! Such an angel trapped in this mess.
Gaeta Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 How far along are you in your pregnancy? Where is your (ex) boyfriend now? Is is living at his place or he's with his ex-wife? Technically if you are not divorced yet from your ex-husband legally this child is your ex by default.
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