trainwreckwatcher Posted June 8, 2005 Posted June 8, 2005 If you were truly "in" love with someone, as opposed to just loving someone, is it possible to fall out of love in a day?
em88 Posted June 8, 2005 Posted June 8, 2005 good question. i wish i knew the answer. is that how you feel? or how someone else felt about you?
IhavenoFREAKINclue Posted June 8, 2005 Posted June 8, 2005 If you were truly "in" love with someone, as opposed to just loving someone Then the below statement wouldn't apply if you were TRULY in love Is it possible to fall out of love in a day? Yes, But then again, if that happens, you never loved them to begin with. I have this philosophy that love lasts forever. I realized that I didn't love my ex when 2 days after we broke up I didn't have anymore feelings for him.
Author trainwreckwatcher Posted June 8, 2005 Author Posted June 8, 2005 Originally posted by em88 good question. i wish i knew the answer. is that how you feel? or how someone else felt about you? It's what my ex said to me. We were talking about relationships and he told me that he fell out of love with me the day we broke up. I told him than I don't believe he was every really in love with me to begin with. He counter and said no, that he was deeply in love with me, but he is able to compartmentalize everything and fell out of love in less than 24 hours. I know I can't turn my feelings off like a faucet, and I was just wondering what others thought about the question. I find his response very enlightening. This is the same guy that I posted about in breakups who moved on to another woman 3 days after me, has dumped her, and moved on to yet someone else already. He's one that I doubt really knows what love is. Thanks for sharing your feelings on it.
em88 Posted June 8, 2005 Posted June 8, 2005 He counter and said no, that he was deeply in love with me, but he is able to compartmentalize everything and fell out of love in less than 24 hours. you know, i dont know what it is with men like this. i wanted to talk to my exbf after we broke up just to clear everything up. he refused. as in he already shut me out. sometimes, i guess you jsut have to realize some people arent capable of dealing with their feelings. they just feel that there isnt any point in doing so, to better themselves. and because they dont take time to think, they never learn. which in turn is seen in the fact taht he went onto 2 other girls right after he broke up with you. you should just see that instead of taking to time to settle his feelings, deal with them, learn and then move on he chose to just move on so fast. which is bad for him. just see yourself as the better person here. someone capable of more than that. its also his ego i guess, he doesnt want to bring himself down to thinking about his mistakes or failures as a person. im not even sure myself. these are just suggestions or feelings. so dont take it all too seriously. its strange. the night before my exbf told me "he loved me more than he ever did". the next day he broke up with me saying "i dont love you enough to try anymore". similiar situation. i dont have the answers to how his feelings changed over night. i dont know if i ever will
Author trainwreckwatcher Posted June 8, 2005 Author Posted June 8, 2005 Originally posted by em88 its also his ego i guess, he doesnt want to bring himself down to thinking about his mistakes or failures as a person. I agree with you that his ego is involved. He is one that runs full speed from issues and conflicts. He doesn't like to face rejection, or the possibilty that something could be his fault. All I can walk away with is what I know it to be. Thanks again for your imput. It helps put it all in perspective.
em88 Posted June 8, 2005 Posted June 8, 2005 All I can walk away with is what I know it to be. thats true..and thats all we can do. its up to them how they deal with it. and up to us to be above it. and no prob im in the same boat as you. trying to make sense of everything.
d'Arthez Posted June 8, 2005 Posted June 8, 2005 To be in love is a state of being. It simply cannot be compartimentalized. It does not come with a list of requirements. The mistake that seems commonly made is that person X is a good partner, because of this or that set of attributes, and subsequently we trick our reason into believing that we are in love with that person. We are often deceiving ourselves, and sometimes we discover that rather later than sooner.
greyskies Posted June 8, 2005 Posted June 8, 2005 Love is Pain and that is the bottom line. Its worst than being addicted to drugs I think. Its the sickest most powerful feeling someone can experience. And I dont want no part of it ever again. Every time I've been in love I turn into someone else. I can't stand the feeling I have when I do. So if anyone is in love they have a sickness thats my opinion. I wish all you people out there that want love need love and have love good luck. Your gonna need it.
immizunderstood Posted June 8, 2005 Posted June 8, 2005 Chris Rock said " YOU HAVEN'T BEEN IN LOVE UNLESS YOU'VE WISHED YOU COULD KILL YOUR LOVER AND HAVE PRACTICED YOUR ALIBI IN THE MIRROR" So my comment to that is like what GREYSKIES said. "LOVE IS PAIN" and when you got it you get bad.
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