SuperSaiyan Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 I met a girl at a music festival on New Years day. She is a friend of a friend. She came back to my mates house after and we all hung out. I then asked for her phone(as my phone was dead) and went on her facebook and sent myself a friend request. She laughed and said that I was very confident! We'd been messaging casually here and there, nothing major. A few weeks later on Australia Day, I asked her to come to my mates house for a spa, after a few hours of coaxing she came with her same friend who is a friend of ours. We hung out all night but I didn't make a move. I then messaged her the next day asking to take her out on the weekend(this weekend), she agreed and we went out on Saturday night to a quiet bar. We had a laugh and kissed a few times, I walked her back to her car and I caught a cab home. I messaged her the next day, sending her a link to a funny video clip, she said it was hilarious! Today(Tuesday) I messaged her, asking if she wanted to hang out this weekend and her exact reply was.. "Oh I can't it's pretty full for me for the rest of this week" Does this mean she's not interested and that I should move on?
d0nnivain Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 While it would have been better if she sent you an alternate date that worked better for her, I don't see her response as a complete blow off. Give it a few days (yes DAYS) then ask her for another date. If you don't get a yes to that or an alternative that works for her, then give up. 2
Author SuperSaiyan Posted February 2, 2016 Author Posted February 2, 2016 Thanks mate! I replied a few hours later saying.. "Miss popular, that was quick. Your schedule must be like your work leave board then huh, gotta put in a request in advance (laughing emoji). Well if you're not booked up weekend after, we could hang out ;)" 2
VeveCakes Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 Less is more....don't message her again and see if she reaches out. 1
Zippy2000 Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 I wouldnt see that as a sign shes not interested. Its FAR too early. Besides she has gone to your spa thingy, and to a quiet bar. You have to remember people have their own priorities. I agree with d0nnivain that she could of given you a counter offer but some people arent aware of this, Give it time and see how she interacts with you. See if her words match her actions. Its always their actions you have you pay attention to. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 Your response was fine: direct, pithy & confident. Now comes the hard part: you have to wait. You put the ball squarely in her court. See what she does next. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. 3
Popsicle Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 I think she's still interested just happened to have a full week. Keep in contact with her, she likes it. 1
Author SuperSaiyan Posted February 2, 2016 Author Posted February 2, 2016 Hope so, women are funny creatures. Men break our backs during the chase, and once we're in a relationship, they're the ones doing the chasing haha 1
Author SuperSaiyan Posted February 2, 2016 Author Posted February 2, 2016 That's the only reason I'm fretting, she didn't offer an alternative :/
bubby7 Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 I have to agree that I wouldn’t see not getting a date for this weekend as a sign that she’s not interested in you. While you’re waiting it might be a good time to ask yourself some questions about the relationship and your reasons for pursuing her. A lot of successful relationships starts off slow and by really getting to know the person for who they are; that takes a lot of reflecting and quality time apart and together. I wish you all the best!
truth_seeker Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Your response was fine: direct, pithy & confident. Pithy? Do you watch the O'Reilly Factor on Fox?
truth_seeker Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Hope so, women are funny creatures. Men break our backs during the chase, and once we're in a relationship, they're the ones doing the chasing haha Tell me about! I've had women give me every indicator to man they wanted my attention, had interest in me... I make a move and then... silence. I have to wait to see because I would come clean on my interest for them. I gave them all the power.
d0nnivain Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 Pithy? Do you watch the O'Reilly Factor on Fox? I've seen it but it was my word before his show aired. 1
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