Skeered Posted June 8, 2005 Posted June 8, 2005 Ok I hope I'm posting this in the right section and please noone get offended that may be in this situation this is just my question as I have been sitting here reading this forum for a while now. I have sat back and watched people wonder why the mm or mw they are dating, when they will leave their spouses to be with them, when they can start a relationship with this person etc. I have also read about people that want to have children with married men etc. Here's my question...why do you hold yourselves in such low regard. Why do you feel that you aren't worthy of a person that will love just you and be totally devoted to you alone. What makes you think that this person will leave their spouse and start a realtionship with you and what makes you so sure it will last if they cheated before they will cheat again. My XH had a "relationship" with a woman he met online and I caught them a couple times in hot conversations on the phone..I told him many times if you aren't happy with me go to her..he out right told me he didn't want her he wanted the alure of having a stranger find him attractive like I once did when we first met. It wasn't that he wanted to leave me for her he just liked the attention he got from it. But here's this OW in another state that really thought there was something going on..it ticked me off that he could do that to her. It pissed me off even more that he could do it to me of course. But regardless he had his issues and we are no longer together and guess what OW was not who he ended up with. It sadens me to see people waiting for someone on the sidelines when they really never can be assured that anything will happen. There are so many GREAT people in the world that aren't attached to anyone..who are looking for the same things these OW/OM are looking for. Ok end of my rant...just really don't understand why people lower themselves to this level...
MsMree Posted June 8, 2005 Posted June 8, 2005 It seems to me that the majority of women on here are look'g for support in order to get out or to just vent because of the situation they are in - most of us know it truly is a "crap-shoot" regarding their leaving. But you are not alone in ask'g. About once a month there seems to be someone who pops-up on here to ask why we have such low self worth or hold ourselves in low regard (HA!! I can almost set my watch to it). Mind you, they are not in this situation just baiting us for a poll perhaps(?) Maybe these people suffer from superiority-complex(?) - annoying nonetheless. One last thing - i think i'm the greatest thing since sliced-bread.
jj003 Posted June 9, 2005 Posted June 9, 2005 Skeered, you don't seem to understand, people do fall in love, and love is something people DO NOT always have control over? If we only fall in love with the right person because this person can offer us this and offer us that, then I think it is not real love for love should be unconditional!! we can love a person but it doesn't mean we demand something in return from him always you know, there are many things in this world we may love to have, but it doesn't mean we have to have them all... and just because it is NOT ours, it doesn't make us love it less... so when i think of my mm, actually, it is NOT my mm, it is her husband, my nothing(mn) instead, because I cannot be with him, it doesn't make me think less of him it is also NOT because I have a low self respect that I still think of him and miss him it is because I think so highly of myself that I think I can care for someone without asking anything in return If being with me put him in a difficult situation, makes him stressful, guilty, or unhappy in anyway I would rather him be happy and NOT be with me, I would not blame him... because I think so highly of myself I know I can love someone and keep it in my own heart without asking anything in return and only wish the other person to be happy!!
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