dazed343 Posted June 8, 2005 Posted June 8, 2005 How long do you find it takes you before you can go back to the places where you visited last with your S/O. Im finding it hard to walk to work on the same path as she walked with me a few times, just reminds me. Also going to places I've always gone to is difficult just because the last few times I have been there were with her. My birthday is in less than 2 wks and Im going to be singel. She's has friends coming down soon from her hometown so she's going to be having a great time.
NTB Posted June 8, 2005 Posted June 8, 2005 that is all you can do for some people it might be easier than others but in your own time you will heal and then you will be able to go where ever you like with out thinking twice about it.........now as far as your birthday is concerned......get together with your pals and go OUT and HAVE FUN..........for my bday my boys took me to a strip club and paid for all my lap dances that was good stuff but whatever you do have fun
laRubiaBonita Posted June 8, 2005 Posted June 8, 2005 i do not have this Memorey equated to places, or songs...Scema's i have heard them called.
em88 Posted June 8, 2005 Posted June 8, 2005 i totally relate to you. believe me, i do. my exbf and i used to have outings together everyday, visiting every interesting place in the city that we could. so basically, everywhere you can imagine--we have been together. and we had many special places. its hard for me, cuz i think of memories we had in certain spots but i just try and push it out. for now at least. its only been a week, but ive been able to go to the places we used to hang out without him. its lonely, but i cant keep avoiding it all together right! dont worry, itll get better
beejsea2 Posted June 8, 2005 Posted June 8, 2005 My ex left me seven months ago and I can say it takes time. I still can't wear the perfume that he gave me the last Christmas we were together. There are certain songs that I avoid even now but over time things start getting easier.
dogood4urself Posted June 8, 2005 Posted June 8, 2005 IT WILL GET BETTER! I promise you. I moved to a city with my ex gf. She had lived here before and wanted to move back. I on the other hand, had never been here. We broke up after a 9 months... and damn it was hard to even walk down the street, everywhere I went I would be reminded of her... and all the fond memories we had together. I went to a bbq last weekend at this park, and i got sad thinking that the first time I had been there was with her (it has been 4 months since we broke up.) But you know what, it does not affect me nearly as much as it used to. Its a really good feeling, and you will get there you just have to take it easy. I have only 2 tips for you: 1) Don't push yourself too hard. Take it easy, go to places if you think you can handle it, but don't torture yourself, this will never help you get over them. 2)If you do go somewhere, CREATE NEW MEMORIES, this is a tough one but it is a good one, it allows you to create a different relationship with the things you love and used to do together, go with some friends and do something fun. Have fun on your birthday, give yourself everything you want...and remember that you spent years of your life happy with out her and you can go ahead an do it again.
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