contel3 Posted February 1, 2016 Share Posted February 1, 2016 I've been dating a promissing looking guy. Only one issue: his smell. I don't like it and it turns me off. Besides that he's pretty great. I'm not sure if this should be a deal breaker or if I might miss out on something? I've only met him a few times. Maybe I'll get to appreciate the fragrance. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Popsicle Posted February 1, 2016 Share Posted February 1, 2016 I believe pheromones are taken in through our sense of smell and liking someone's pheromones is really important,imo. 11 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted February 1, 2016 Share Posted February 1, 2016 Could be a health issue. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
j0celyn Posted February 1, 2016 Share Posted February 1, 2016 Is it his natural smell or his cologne? Since you used the word "fragrance." Link to post Share on other sites
carhill Posted February 1, 2016 Share Posted February 1, 2016 OP, could you clarify? Pheromones was mentioned How about cologne? How about body odor, like funky perspiration? What exactly? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
blueskyday Posted February 1, 2016 Share Posted February 1, 2016 I'm also a big believer in pheromones, which do come in through the nose and give us clues about a potential mate's immune system. If he/she smells good (natural scent), then his or her immune system differs enough from yours to produce strong, healthy offspring. Maybe give him another chance. Tell him you are sensitive to cologne and request that he doesn't put any on after his shower when he gets ready for your date. Sometimes people smell bad if they are wearing dirty clothes or haven't showered after sweating heavily. Bacteria has a chance to grow, and that stinks. But, then we're talking about a hygiene problem, and you wouldn't want him anyway, in that case. Keep us posted! Link to post Share on other sites
still_an_Angel Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 How could you get turned on if one of your senses is raging against this guy? 2 Link to post Share on other sites
rockstar135 Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 What does he smell of? Is it BO? 3 Link to post Share on other sites
WaitingForBardot Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 Assuming it's not a cleanliness/hygiene thing, you are likely immunologically incompatible, as mentioned by blueskyday above. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
IronZ Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 It's called deodorant. Or buy him a cologne you like under the guise of a gift and ask him to wear it. Easy peasy. Link to post Share on other sites
amaysngrace Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 Maybe he has a disease that makes him smell real bad or eats weird spice. Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 Nah, doesn't make sense to stay with the guy whose smell isn't appealing to you... It is wonderful to love a man and have him wrap his arms around you while you enjoy the whole package, including the way he smells. In fact, just to snuggle up next to him and breathe deeply of him.......ah, nothing like it! Have dated a man I cared deeply for whose smell wasn't offensive but was a little bit off, to me. He was very clean but I couldn't have married him for that reason. Come to think of it, though, we weren't compatible in other ways, too. Have also tried to date a man I ended up not liking at all, and his scent was awful to me. Those I have really loved and been with long term, I have loved their scent, too. Have never really thought that much about the connection but now that I am maybe I'll just sniff out my date the first time we're out and decide right then and there where the R is going! Link to post Share on other sites
Toodaloo Posted February 2, 2016 Share Posted February 2, 2016 Welcome to the SSS (Secret Sniffers Society!). We in the SSS believe that the sense of smell is important in determining whether a suitor is a match or not by sniffing his armpits after a five mile jog. Yes boys, some of you just smell divine after that! There is some science in there somewhere but we usually lose the ability to think as we draw in the essence of BO. If you don't like the way he smells it will only get worse. Lets face it would you enjoy rolling in goose poo? May as well be the same thing... My dogs think they have done marvelously well when then find a juicy bit of swan excrement to roll in... I don't. I don't let them near me when they have and I am pretty sure you will not want a stinky man near you either... 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author contel3 Posted February 3, 2016 Author Share Posted February 3, 2016 (edited) OP, could you clarify? Pheromones was mentioned How about cologne? How about body odor, like funky perspiration? What exactly? For those who wondered. A mix of the above. Cologne (which does smell good) and an underlying weird smell. I'm not sure if it's the body odour or if it's the clothes though. The smell is really hard to describe. It's a bit like clothes you haven't washed for a while....or feet. I've decided to break it off, we don't know each other enough to adress the issue directly, but the smell bothers me too much to be ignored. I guess I'll just find some kind of excuse, giving the real reason is kinda brutal (though friends suggested I'd be doing him a favour). Edited February 3, 2016 by contel3 1 Link to post Share on other sites
SugarLips72 Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 That would be a turn off. There really is no way to delicately discuss this either. hmmm.. I sold a car to a guy who had very noticeable BO. Super nice guy he texts me from time to time. He is married but admittingly not bad looking but the BO is bad. Link to post Share on other sites
HereNorThere Posted February 4, 2016 Share Posted February 4, 2016 (edited) It sucks, but I know I've called off a few relationships over smells. Despite my avatar, I don't like the smell of cat piss. Every cat owner I meet acts like they don't have the smell, but that's only because they're used to it. I know, I know, you clean litterbox and what not, blah blah blah. If you have a cat, I can smell it on you from across the room. It's a lot like cigarette smokers, only the smell is 100x worse. Sorry, OP. I've been there and it just sucks completely. If he just smells like dirty laundry, maybe you can talk him into washing his clothes. However, I've noticed that unhygienic people get very, very defensive when you bring it up. They refuse to take care of the problem and then act surprised when you call off the relationship. I think if you dig a little deeper, you'll see that it's really not about his smell, it's about his personality. Some people have very fragile egos and refuse to take an objective look at themselves. If you hold up a mirror, you will be villianized for it. Edited February 4, 2016 by HereNorThere 4 Link to post Share on other sites
LivingWaterPlease Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 an underlying weird smell. I'm not sure if it's the body odour or if it's the clothes though. The smell is really hard to describe. It's a bit like clothes you haven't washed for a while....or feet. I guess I'll just find some kind of excuse, giving the real reason is kinda brutal (though friends suggested I'd be doing him a favour). This was the way the one guy i cared for a lot but who had a smell was, very hard to describe and he was clean. It was kind of like clothes that had been stored for too long but I dated him a couple of years and he always smelled this way though his home didn't. He was very successful in business, intelligent and had good hygiene. You had to get up close to him to notice the smell which was more odd than off putting. The other guy just didn't smell good at all, like clothes that needed washing. He was just a friend, also successful in his work, who was trying to get something going with me so i did date him for a short time to see if it would work. I tried to work with him on the smell, telling him how to wash his clothes, etc, which helped some but not nearly enough. There were other things about him that were off putting, too, though. Link to post Share on other sites
road Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 It the smell is not fit You must quit Link to post Share on other sites
Art_Critic Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 maybe it is the smell of his house.. I have seen it where people who live in older musty houses, even some built on crawl spaces smell or take on the smell of their house because their clothes are kept in the smelly closets... Link to post Share on other sites
RedRobin Posted February 5, 2016 Share Posted February 5, 2016 (edited) For those who wondered. A mix of the above. Cologne (which does smell good) and an underlying weird smell. I'm not sure if it's the body odour or if it's the clothes though. The smell is really hard to describe. It's a bit like clothes you haven't washed for a while....or feet. I've decided to break it off, we don't know each other enough to adress the issue directly, but the smell bothers me too much to be ignored. I guess I'll just find some kind of excuse, giving the real reason is kinda brutal (though friends suggested I'd be doing him a favour). There was a guy I reeeallly liked. Was perfect for in lots of ways. But half of our dates, i just couldn't stand his smell. It wasn't BO. It turned out to be early stages of diabetes. It ran in his family. So yea, I am a strong believer that they guy has to smell good. Like really, really good to me, before I can continue. Good decision on your part. I did tell the guy very nicely that I was put off by his smell... That it might be a health issue and that I was concerned for him. It turned out quite well overall. It alerted him to something he didn't know... And he sought treatment. He joked and said I was like his guide dog, lol. Seriously, I do have a very good nose for health issues... Both in myself and others. Edited February 5, 2016 by RedRobin Link to post Share on other sites
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