h0000 Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 (edited) If any of you remembered my last thread, I was talking about this guy I dated for a month who "loved bombed" me with 100 texts per day but faded drastically in the end. Now a month has past and he started texting me apologising for being distant. I have moved on, so am pretty level headed now. However I am curious what happened and what's his game lol Do any of you guys believe I can give him another chance? And just so you know I'm not giving him another chance Edited February 1, 2016 by h0000
j0celyn Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 If you're really curious, go for it. Just be prepared in case it's something you don't want to hear. This has happened to me before. He gave me all sorts of explanations. I got the truth out of him though and it was that he met somebody else and it didn't work out. Hah. Not saying that's what happened with yours, but that he might not tell you the truth. Or he really does have a legitimate explanation.
Zahara Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 (edited) I question guys that shoot of the blocks really fast because most times they crash and burn. It's too difficult to maintain 100 texts a day but when someone does that, you have to wonder whether there's a need to get somewhere really fast or if they really care to want to court you. I have to wonder if he was messing with someone else who was giving him what he wanted and now is just revisiting his list of women -- maybe prospects are low and he needs attention. I can't imagine how one can go from 100 texts to nothing all in a month. Doesn't sound normal or reliable. PS: I just read your last thread. 100 texts a day. Then you both had sex. Then nothing. Move on from this guy. Edited February 1, 2016 by Zahara 3
j0celyn Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 Like OP I'm a curious person, so, personally, I would talk to him about it. I'd want to see what excuses he comes up with then call him out that he got what he wanted and bounced, and now he just wants it again. Or mess with him a little and make him prove otherwise and prove his excuses. (Also depends on what OP is looking for. If you have moved on and want just sex with him now, chances are that's what he wants too)
Redhead14 Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 If any of you remembered my last thread, I was talking about this guy I dated for a month who "loved bombed" me with 100 texts per day but faded drastically in the end. Now a month has past and he started texting me apologising for being distant. I have moved on, so am pretty level headed now. However I am curious what happened and what's his game lol Do any of you guys believe I can give him another chance? And just so you know I'm not giving him another chance He didn't get/isn't getting what he wants from other girls and is now circling back to one he did get it from because his sacks are full. Keep moving. 3
lino Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 $100 says you'll end up in bed with him again. Struggling guys watch and learn. 2
Author h0000 Posted February 1, 2016 Author Posted February 1, 2016 Like OP I'm a curious person, so, personally, I would talk to him about it. I'd want to see what excuses he comes up with then call him out that he got what he wanted and bounced, and now he just wants it again. Or mess with him a little and make him prove otherwise and prove his excuses. (Also depends on what OP is looking for. If you have moved on and want just sex with him now, chances are that's what he wants too) Basically he denied everything when I "called him out". He said he was just busy, that he was always interested, and he never disappeared, and "you haven't reached out either", and wants to make it up to me. Honestly if he owes up to it I might be able to still be friends with him .
Author h0000 Posted February 1, 2016 Author Posted February 1, 2016 $100 says you'll end up in bed with him again. Struggling guys watch and learn. lol so many fishes in the sea, why would I still have sex with him? Frankly I already started to hang out with someone else.
katiegrl Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 Basically he denied everything when I "called him out". He said he was just busy, that he was always interested, and he never disappeared, and "you haven't reached out either", and wants to make it up to me. Honestly if he owes up to it I might be able to still be friends with him . If he claims YOU didn't reach out to HIM (flipping it back to you)...then what exactly does he need to "make up" to you? According to HIM, HE did nothing wrong. He was "busy" (yeah right) and YOU never got in touch with him either! See how that makes no sense? Because he is FULL OF SHYT, that's why. h0000, for the love of all things beautiful, PLEASE don't allow yourself to fall for his game. It's classic! You know he ghosted you after sex....and HE knows he ghosted you after sex. The only reason he's calling now is (1) he's horny, and (2) he has no one else at the moment. Please be smarter than this girl!! Tell him "sorry, not interested." The block, delete. 1
Wewon Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 If any of you remembered my last thread, I was talking about this guy I dated for a month who "loved bombed" me with 100 texts per day but faded drastically in the end. Now a month has past and he started texting me apologising for being distant. I have moved on, so am pretty level headed now. However I am curious what happened and what's his game lol I would have a sick curiosity to see what he said and why he did it. I would also have zero temptation to date a person that did this in the past. I think that most of our misbehavior is really just our true character surfacing to be peeked at. I would fully expect this to resurface in various forms if you let him back into your life.
Zippy2000 Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 I ve done this before when I was a kid. I was interested in a girl. She was so slow to move I got distracted by another. Didnt get anywhere with girl number 2 so went back to girl number 1 who ended up with a boyfriend. Sounds very similar to your story.
Wewon Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 Basically he denied everything when I "called him out". He said he was just busy, that he was always interested, and he never disappeared, and "you haven't reached out either", and wants to make it up to me. Honestly if he owes up to it I might be able to still be friends with him . It sounds like that ship has sailed. He's not owning up to anything, he's trying to make you guilty as well. Like I said before, this is who he is, expect to keep seeing variations of this type of behavior.
Omei Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 If your with someone new why disrespect that by entertaining this dude who left you.
Gaeta Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 Basically he denied everything when I "called him out". He said he was just busy, that he was always interested, and he never disappeared, and "you haven't reached out either", and wants to make it up to me. Honestly if he owes up to it I might be able to still be friends with him . He contacted you because he was bored and got in his phone and wondered what chick would still talk to him. There is no such a thing as being too busy. Be friends? what for?? You're going to offer your friendship to someone who treated you like an escort. 1
Gaeta Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 lol so many fishes in the sea, why would I still have sex with him? Frankly I already started to hang out with someone else. Then stay on track with the new guy ! Block this jerk - it's called keeping your sh$t together! That's the type of woman men want to meet. Not women that go back and forth. 3
insert_name Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 If your with someone new why disrespect that by entertaining this dude who left you. Because the new guy treats her with respect...
Author h0000 Posted February 2, 2016 Author Posted February 2, 2016 $100 says you'll end up in bed with him again. Struggling guys watch and learn. Because the new guy treats her with respect... Wow,bitter much, guys? Who says I'm entertaining this guy? I thought I made it pretty damn clear that I am NOT giving him another chance? I already sent him on his merry way. But you guys don't believe it. You just don't want to believe women actually do say no to jerks,do you ? And what's with the immediate assumption that the new guy treats me with respect ? Since when are you his homebody ? Drop the attitude that "I'm failing in dating because I treat women with respect however they only go for jerks" 1
Fleur de cactus Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 You will not get anything good or new from him. Probably he is bored and went on the list and saw your name just to keep him busy. He is probably messaging other women at the same time saying the same thing. There are people who like to have a long list they can contact as a backup plan. Anyway if you are curious to know what he have to say you can meet him, but If it was me, I would move on.
AMJ Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 100 texts per day after one month? Who has time to text someone 100 times/day at any point in a relationship? At some point do people ever realize it's quicker and easier to just call each other and talk on the phone for 20 minutes? I hate texting.
Author h0000 Posted February 2, 2016 Author Posted February 2, 2016 You will not get anything good or new from him. Probably he is bored and went on the list and saw your name just to keep him busy. He is probably messaging other women at the same time saying the same thing. There are people who like to have a long list they can contact as a backup plan. Anyway if you are curious to know what he have to say you can meet him, but If it was me, I would move on. I was curious before but not anymore. because he doesn't have the courage to admit he's a jerk haha And I must add just because I was curious what happened , does not mean I want to get back with him. Some guys here really like to jump the guns
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