yeayea Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 hello i was with my x partner for 6 years and we have been split up for 6 months now i met someone else and we have been going well for a while then i found out my x moved on and it killed me and ihave lost my current partner thought this my x was telling me she still loves me still wants me and stuff now its boom im back to square one and im worse than i was when she left me and i dont know what to do i have hit the bottle and turned to drink this didnt help i went back to football at the weekends this didnt help im just after some adivice what i can do she still texts and rings me all the time maybe i should just cut her off as hard as it may be this might be the way im just really struddleing and dont know what to do please any adivce you can give me i would be very greatful as im really finding it hard
donetrying Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 Reading this just took me back to when I split with an ex a couple of years ago after she cheated after 6 and a half years together. You're clearly not over her by any means so there's no real point in trying to get into another relationship with someone else because you will use it to mask your pain and eventually end up hurting the other person as well as yourself. You need to cut contact completely. I did that, it took me a few goes at it to be honest because I kept breaking down and would contact her. We haven't spoken now for a very long time and I feel like I'm over her completely. I found out she ended up being with the guy that she cheated on me with which ripped me to pieces so I can totally understand how you're feeling now. STAY AWAY FROM ALCOHOL it really doesn't help at all, it'll just make you feel like **** the next day on top of how you're already feeling. I started smoking weed at night which actually did help a bit and no effect the next day but I would not advise it. Get to the gym, go morning and night and when you feel like you've given it all use the pain you're going through to really give absolutely everything you can. If you have friends, try and be around them as much as possible (without drinking) the more time you are alone the more you will think about her. The no contact thing is what's going to really help you get over her as quickly as possible (which isn't very quickly) but it does help. Hang in there dude
Poppyolive Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 First up. ..cut her off...completely. Facebook/text/Instagram etc.... Then please don't drink away the pain. It will still remain, hidden under a drunken stupor. Face it head on. Get support, make a fujckit list, sleep lots, eat clean, go on bike rides....this will all help peel away layers. Where the healing happens. It wasn't the wisest thing to jump into another relationship. This, (the new relationship) and the drinking are all masking the pain. It will remain, until you face it head on. Take time out, do you for a while.
Author yeayea Posted February 3, 2016 Author Posted February 3, 2016 I know she is with him tonight I know this for a fact I'm going to do what you all said and cut the bitch off I broke someone to bits becuase of all this and makes me feel so bad I need to keep my mind going I'm ok at work becuase I got all the lads round me its just when I come home and I'm all alone I need to keep active becuase it eats me up I'm really not getting over this very easy but I must admit I'm getting there becuase the pain isn't what it was months ago I would of been a wreck right now but I'm. Not I'm gutted but not really bad
sowhatwedonow Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 bro, we dont know each other. but trust me so much on this. just cut everything off, all the texting, calls and watev. Just end it. I was in your shoes, totally frigging crushed by the woman i thought the world of. But fack yeah it gets better. but staying in contact will keep u in pain. Get away from it. The people you want in your life are the ones who care for you and love you. and thats all that matters. Just do the things you enjoy, and live your life for right now. Youd be surprised of the outcome, the new amazing ppl u meet and the new hobbies u fall in love with.. Screw that bitch, you'll get a whole lot better than her. 2
Author yeayea Posted February 3, 2016 Author Posted February 3, 2016 bro, we dont know each other. but trust me so much on this. just cut everything off, all the texting, calls and watev. Just end it. I was in your shoes, totally frigging crushed by the woman i thought the world of. But fack yeah it gets better. but staying in contact will keep u in pain. Get away from it. The people you want in your life are the ones who care for you and love you. and thats all that matters. Just do the things you enjoy, and live your life for right now. Youd be surprised of the outcome, the new amazing ppl u meet and the new hobbies u fall in love with.. Screw that bitch, you'll get a whole lot better than her. It is getting a lot better I do still have feelings but as from last night after reading all these comments the bitch can ****ing do one I have to come to terms with myself that she is not the only person in this world she is a waste of space and dead to me ****ing bring on the single life lets have it
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