Sebastian235 Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 I will try to keep this as short as possible - Never had a girlfriend before until her, the circumstances we met were so thin and unlikely we both always used to talk about how amazing it was, we was holding hands within 10 minutes. We carried on talking for a few months and eventually got into a relationship. Relationship lasted approximately a year, I was very good to her she was very good to me I treated her like a princess it was like something out of the movies we got on so good. I was the only go to treat her right and she will admit that. The thing that broke us was that she was scared we are both young (late teens) and she was scared that she is missing out on things and she didn't like the fact that she wasnt free she always felt abit tied down. none of her friends had long term boyfriends and just enjoyed the single life and she never has really had the chance (in some silly little relationship before me he was a ****) so we broke up 4 months ago - she was heart broken so was I she still loved me I still loved her. both still physically attracted after break up. so after break up i started going out to clubs with my friends not doing anything with girls but just enjoying myself she would still ask me even tho we was split up if i kissed anyone else i would always tell her no and she would be relieved. The longest we have gone without contact is 2 weeks and she rang me after that and said she missed me and was crying asking if i had kissed anyone else i comforted her and said no we both agreed she did this because of hormones etc...... a month after (a few days ago) she went out and i found out she kissed another boy - i was broken?! she said sorry and that it was just fun at the time and she didn't want to get to know him or anything I could tell she felt ashamed i know shes not the type of person to do this and so does she this is very out of character. I rang her and told her i still Love her i just confessed it all.She said she is enjoying being free and single. I told her to tell me she doesnt love me still to help me move on she said she couldnt say that and she still often compliments my physical appearance so i know she is still attracted. ive decided to go no contact for a while. ever since the break up shes been jumping from saying 'next year at college i want us to be together' to 'next year at college its not happening' her mind changes all the time. I know ive left a huge mark on her buy treating her so great and its going to take someone special to beat all i did for her! in your honest opinion what do you think i should do? and do you think she will come back. I think i need to let her go out and give her the chance to realise what she is missing.
Chi townD Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 Dude, she's full of sh*t. The fact is she's been making out with guys from the moment the first time she asked you if you've been kissing girls. Why would I know this? Because if you had a girl that was still madly in love with you, why would she be interested in your love life? Why would she want to hear that you've been with other girls and subjugate herself to pain? The reason why she asked is because she already has and was hoping that you did too. So, she would be able to ease her guilt knowing that you were intimate with someone too. Dude, you need to ignore her. She made her choice. She values being single and hooking up with other guys. So, you have no reason to still be talking to her. So, why is she still contacting you? Because she's pulling on the leash to make sure the dog is still there. If she notices the dog is gone, she goes looking for the dog. 1
Author Sebastian235 Posted February 1, 2016 Author Posted February 1, 2016 the last time she asked me if I kissed anyone was 3 months ago she hadnt kissed anyone then either it wasnt until a few days ago she first kissed someone. I asked why shes asking and she said because that would show that we are truely over?! when she admitted the kiss she did say some weird things she later denied 'people do things when theyre sad' and it was a silly mistake. I think to her it must have felt good in the moment but then she realised this guy doesnt really care - appreciate the reply!! and youre hellah right about the dog thing
Paradigm Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 (edited) Dude, she's full of sh*t. The fact is she's been making out with guys from the moment the first time she asked you if you've been kissing girls. Why would I know this? Because if you had a girl that was still madly in love with you, why would she be interested in your love life? Why would she want to hear that you've been with other girls and subjugate herself to pain? The reason why she asked is because she already has and was hoping that you did too. So, she would be able to ease her guilt knowing that you were intimate with someone too.. This. I'm not sure she had already done it, but she was definitely thinking about it. People that ask or accuse the other of something are the ones having such thoughts. Since she had them, she definitely thought you would, too. So she must've thought to herself "I do what I want too" and acted on it. So, why is she still contacting you? Because she's pulling on the leash to make sure the dog is still there. If she notices the dog is gone, she goes looking for the dog. My boyfriend has been doing that to me. Push and pull... Edited February 1, 2016 by Paradigm
Author Sebastian235 Posted February 1, 2016 Author Posted February 1, 2016 I know 100% the first person she kissed was a few days ago, I had been asked so many times if I had kissed anyone but she 100% knew that I hadnt kissed anyone so she kinda made the first move. when I confessed my love for her she said ' I could tell you still liked me' I think shes always going to see me as a option in this equation until i remove myself
Chi townD Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 I know 100% the first person she kissed was a few days ago, I had been asked so many times if I had kissed anyone but she 100% knew that I hadnt kissed anyone so she kinda made the first move. when I confessed my love for her she said ' I could tell you still liked me' I think shes always going to see me as a option in this equation until i remove myself No way you can know 100% that she hasn't made out with anyone up till a couple of days ago. You're not her boyfriend anymore and you're not with her 24/7. And why did she say weird things? It's because she didn't know what to say. She was probably sure of herself that you HAD been messing around. Hell, some guys brag about it. So, you hit her for a loop when you said you haven't and she didn't know how to respond to it.
Author Sebastian235 Posted February 1, 2016 Author Posted February 1, 2016 thats the one thing we are completely honest with each other and always have been we cant lie to each other, why would she admit this guy but not previous guys. I could put my life on it we always had that type of understanding as of a few days ago she knew I hadnt kissed anyone but she decided to kiss someone. I did get angry and said its disgusting she said This is the first time in my whole life ive got with someone I havent been going out with - thats true aswell
lolablue17 Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 It really doesn't matter if she kissed a guy and when. Here's the thing - Do you want to be miserable? For a long time? Do you? So continue with what you've done till now. But if you wish to be happy, just stop it. She drags you into her mess, and you're the only one who's gonna get hurt. Tell her that since she doesn't want any relationship with you, you're starting no contact, you indeed intend to date with another girl this week, you wish her happiness and good bye. You can politely let her doing her gig of crying, saying she loves you bla bla bla, then say goodbye and hangs. Case closed, end of story! Be ware - she might say she wants you back. But only to dump you again soon. Stay away from her. (Unless again, she is so important to you, till you demand to be miserable for a long period) 1
Author Sebastian235 Posted February 2, 2016 Author Posted February 2, 2016 Yeah that's good advice was just hopeing that me treating her so good counted for something, maybe her begging for me back or realising what she's missing but I guess it just doesn't work like that
lolablue17 Posted February 2, 2016 Posted February 2, 2016 I would appreciate if you keep us updated. Thank you... 1
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