elephunk Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 Hey all, This is my first post here! Seen a lot of topics I'll be active in shortly. Great to be amongst you all. Okay, as the title says. A girl from school liked me on Tinder. I left school nearly 11 years ago now. Me and her never spoke at school. Despite seeing her around. I think she may have been shy. We were in the same year but never same classes or anything. She was good looking then, but wow. She's absolutely beautiful.. The strangest thing is a month or so ago I saw her on Facebook. Thought she was stunning. The world works in mysterious ways huh?! Today, I matched with her and messaged her not long after. Now, I know I didn't quite get the convo in flow. I was in a bit of shock to be honest. The thought of her fancying me at school I think What I wrote She was out till quite late I presume judging by the distance thing. That feature is weird. She didn't get back to me. Should I send a follow up later in the week? How should I approach this? I'm really keen on this. I usually don't get interested in women when messaging. Just flirt and see how it goes. Any advice, I'd be grateful for!
spiderowl Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 I'm not the right person to comment on this really because I find being called 'babe' a total turnoff. It's far too casual for someone you see as special. 'Babe' could be one of many girls you have on the go, assuming I've got this the right way round and you are calling her 'babe'? Aside from the wording (sigh), if you are really interested in her, why not say so? You need to make her feel special and not one of many. You could even refer to schooldays and say how you liked her then too. You need to treat this girl as an individual. Obviously, if she doesn't respond at all, then she's either lost her phone or changed her mind. Give her time to think about it a bit though. She may be in shock too!
truth_seeker Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 I can see why you're excited... keep in mind, you really don't know her. She could be in shock... she could be playing it cool... or she just might be a flake and that's why she is on Tinder. I would message her again and ask for her phone number.
Author elephunk Posted February 1, 2016 Author Posted February 1, 2016 (edited) I've probably put her off with that. I said it twice in such a short space of time. I don't see it as a turnoff. I get called pet names and just take them as that. No meaning.. I thought it would be better to establish a dialogue before getting into the point of telling her I'm really interested in her. I want to make her feel special but not rush things too much you know? I been thinking of what to say around midweek time if she doesn't respond. I don't really know what to write. She seems really interesting too from what I could see on her Facebook profile. There isn't much to say about our school days. We never actually spoke together. Can she be in shock about this? I'm kind of excited, but kind of hating it too. Just want confirmation she's interested too. Thanks both of you for your responses! Truth_seeker, I don't want to message her again so quickly. I want to give her sometime to think it over. When I message her back she will know I've not forgotten her... I hope. Is asking so quick a good idea? Edited February 1, 2016 by elephunk
IronZ Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 Yeah I think it was fine to say it once because she followed up with "hun" but doing it a second time is overkill. You haven't even really talked yet. Also what is with the X after each message? Anyway I'd say just give it a while and if she responds great if not take a shot and ask her to grab a drink and catch up.
Author elephunk Posted February 1, 2016 Author Posted February 1, 2016 I feel inside like I've blown it and not made a good impression. I'll lay off the babe and my kiss at the end of the message when I follow up! Ah, wish I could start it all differently now
IronZ Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 Don't overanalyze anything on Tinder. Everyone on there is just lame and shallow anyway lol so anything could happen. I think it gives you an advantage that you know this girl but just play it cool. You don't wanna give off the impression you're just looking to flirt and have a fling.
truth_seeker Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 Don't overanalyze anything on Tinder. Everyone on there is just lame and shallow anyway lol so anything could happen. You're saying I'm lame?
truth_seeker Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 Truth_seeker, I don't want to message her again so quickly. I want to give her sometime to think it over. When I message her back she will know I've not forgotten her... I hope. Is asking so quick a good idea? Wait a bit to message her again... but when you do, ask for her number. Something like: "hey, this Thursday lets meet at Starbucks for a coffee. We can catch up about those school years. lol. What's your number?" 1
Author elephunk Posted February 1, 2016 Author Posted February 1, 2016 (edited) Thanks all, I don't expect a reply this week. As she works full time as the head of marketing somewhere. I know the follow up message will come to be used. I'm thinking of sending it around Wednesday? Thanks for the advice and helping me with wording. This means a lot all Only problem is I can't get my mind off her. This doesn't usually happen. Edited February 1, 2016 by elephunk
Author elephunk Posted February 3, 2016 Author Posted February 3, 2016 What I'm thinking of sending her in the evening: "Hey, you free Friday next week? We can reminisce about them school times! What's your number?" Is the what's your number thing too fast?? Thanks for all your help!
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