Ppikker Posted January 31, 2016 Posted January 31, 2016 A co-worker requested my contact info to pass along to a single friend of his. That next evening, almost 2 wks ago now, I received a video text message from the single friend, Jack. Since then I have received multiple texts, and photos, from him. I encouraged him to phone me so we could talk, and also gave him my email. Some texts just get too lengthy. Here is what I don't get. He keeps contacting me via text & email. He has seen my photos on Facebook and I video messaged him as well. I heard nothing but compliments from him. Almost every day, I get a little text from him saying "Good morning/Good evening. How was your day or this is what I'm up to today. Have a great one, talk to you later, Jack." I am 60 years old, he is 59. I wasn't born yesterday and I know that if a man is clearly interested, he will pursue. What I do NOT need in my life right now is another BFF texting me all the time on the phone taking me on a bridge that leads to nowhere. Just looking for thoughts and input and I greatly appreciate it.
zanwalk Posted January 31, 2016 Posted January 31, 2016 Are you sure he is single? It just sounds a little suspicious to me that he apparently is dodging the issue of making personal contact with you. I would advise caution before you get too into this guy, you need to know more about him.
Gaeta Posted January 31, 2016 Posted January 31, 2016 Is he recently out of a long term relationship? Or maybe he has not dated in a long time? Therefore has no idea what dating has become. Make the invitation yourself. Tell him all that texting is nice but you're looking for someone to enjoy real life company with.
d0nnivain Posted January 31, 2016 Posted January 31, 2016 I'm also going to give him the benefit of the doubt & assume he's gun shy too. Take charge yourself & ask him for coffee. If it's not working for you ask him to stop contacting you.
Author Ppikker Posted January 31, 2016 Author Posted January 31, 2016 Are you sure he is single? It just sounds a little suspicious to me that he apparently is dodging the issue of making personal contact with you. I would advise caution before you get too into this guy, you need to know more about him. I am sure he is single. Friend of a friend who knows him personally. Otherwise, I would definitely take this into consideration. Thanks for your input, greatly appreciated.
Author Ppikker Posted January 31, 2016 Author Posted January 31, 2016 Is he recently out of a long term relationship? Or maybe he has not dated in a long time? Therefore has no idea what dating has become. Make the invitation yourself. Tell him all that texting is nice but you're looking for someone to enjoy real life company with. He did tell me that he ended an eight year relationship from Hell over a year ago. I think that yes, maybe he isn't sure what dating has become. I will take the advice here and let you all know how it works out. Thanks again. 1
thecrucible Posted January 31, 2016 Posted January 31, 2016 Can your coworker act as a go between and set up some kind of meeting i.e. set up so the two of you can join on a day trip/meal/house party or something? 1
Maggie4 Posted January 31, 2016 Posted January 31, 2016 Tell him about your activities. For example dining/dancing, theater, park. Send him pictures. Soon he'll want to get off his butt. Some men are simply lazy. 2
Author Ppikker Posted February 3, 2016 Author Posted February 3, 2016 Hello All. I tried to send a video text to "Jack" on Sunday afternoon. The file was too large. All this to say that when he found out I couldn't send it, he expressed to me his extreme disappointment (via text) I replied back to him that maybe it was time for us to meet in person, enough with the technology already and he said Yes! He agreed! We have a date set for Monday evening coming, after work. Meantime, he texts me at least twice a day. I am optimistic. Thanks so much again for your input! 1
truth_seeker Posted February 3, 2016 Posted February 3, 2016 ^^ Finally, hopefully, a happy ending to a thread. 1
Author Ppikker Posted March 15, 2016 Author Posted March 15, 2016 A co-worker requested my contact info to pass along to a single friend of his. That next evening, almost 2 wks ago now, I received a video text message from the single friend, Jack. Since then I have received multiple texts, and photos, from him. I encouraged him to phone me so we could talk, and also gave him my email. Some texts just get too lengthy. Here is what I don't get. He keeps contacting me via text & email. He has seen my photos on Facebook and I video messaged him as well. I heard nothing but compliments from him. Almost every day, I get a little text from him saying "Good morning/Good evening. How was your day or this is what I'm up to today. Have a great one, talk to you later, Jack." I am 60 years old, he is 59. I wasn't born yesterday and I know that if a man is clearly interested, he will pursue. What I do NOT need in my life right now is another BFF texting me all the time on the phone taking me on a bridge that leads to nowhere. Just looking for thoughts and input and I greatly appreciate it. Update: It's been almost 3 months since I received my first text from this man. We've now been out 4 times. One of those I would not call a date, I met him at a Saturday morning auction. In all actuality, I don't know if I could call any of our times together "dates" but here's the deal. He invited me to a dinner at a private club near his place. I drove myself to his place, at his request, because he wanted us to go over together. He lives a little over 1/2 hour from me, but there is a mountain in between us. We sat at the bar, this is a local-yocal place, and he had his back turned to me practically the whole time while he was watching people come in. Wtf? Are we in high school? Am I chopped liver? Honestly, if I would have had my vehicle with me I would have left right then and there without a word. Nobody on the other side of me to talk to. I guess he finally got tired of watching the door and turned around but there wasn't much conversation, but he wasn't rude. We ate, had a couple beers and he asked if I wanted to go for a mountain ride after. So we did and that was fun. Got back to his place and as soon as we pulled in the drive, he let out a big yawn. Understandable. It was 4:30 in the afternoon. I took that to mean he was not looking to invite me in so I said I'd be heading home then, and walked over to give him a kiss. He puckered up like "kiss me but hurry up and get it over with and don't get too close." (Note that there has not been any attempt by him to get physical. I have been the one to initiate physical contact.) Final straw. We talked about him coming over to my place for dinner. He was very positive and oh yeah, I would love that. So before I left I said do you want to come over next weekend for dinner? He didn't think that would work because he's been trying to get out to see his sister since October, and he was really going to try to do that next weekend. I left it at that. It's confusing to me because he will text me in the morning and again at night. Although he doesn't call me on the phone unless I ask him to. If I ask, he will call. I think that's strange, non-communicative. Then the whole thing yesterday with him watching the door and not talking to me? I was so pissed. I don't know why I can't just tell the guy to get lost. I can see that he clearly is NOT interested in a relationship with me, other than a buddy or something. It seems that I have lost some of my chutzpah as I've gotten older. I find this distressing and I wonder, should I even be 'dating.' Egads. God, I really needed to vent. I swear, I've had the weirdest dating experiences as I've gotten older. It just gets weirder and weirder. Thanks for listening.
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