Stereotypical11 Posted January 31, 2016 Posted January 31, 2016 Men how do you show your affection? Ladies what signs do you pick up on?
The Poster Posted January 31, 2016 Posted January 31, 2016 I'm a guy who is completely against playing games. If I like you, trust me, you'll know. When I like someone, I tend to be very flirty. I make it easy to figure out. Then I act accordingly based on how she responds to my flirting. If she reciprocates, I'll ask her out. If she doesn't, I'll stop. Very simple formula. 3
TaraMaiden2 Posted January 31, 2016 Posted January 31, 2016 Compliments, romantic gestures, 'looks', physical preliminary actions; pupil dilation (not an only sign, I appreciate this; it has a lot to do with the present light levels too!) body position, body language in general (and no, I am NOT talking about a trouser-bulge!), and 'eagerness'.... ie, taking the initiative and suggesting another date... without sounding too needy... 2
d0nnivain Posted January 31, 2016 Posted January 31, 2016 When a man is interested he calls arranges dates listens pays attention touches you looks into your eyes flirts makes you laugh acts gallantly, opens doors etc. makes you feel special 1
preraph Posted January 31, 2016 Posted January 31, 2016 My experience was often around people in my extending crowd that I would run into more than once just out. So maybe they're not like everyone else's. But I knew a guy liked me at least as a friend if they always make a point to come up and talk or put their arm around me when they see me out. Or if they remember details of some nothing conversation you had, that's a good sign. I was shocked when this happened to me in my 50s, just a few years ago. There was a young good looking guy working at one of the pizza/Italian places owned and operated by immigrants from the Mediterranean. I went to two of their places fairly regularly. One time I was there with my sister, and you go up to the counter to order, and I idly said, "I can't remember if it's the meatballs or the meat sauce I like best here." And he didn't miss a beat before saying, "You like the meat sauce." Then about 2-3 months later, I was in there alone during lunch on Valentine's Day and he started talking to me like he was wanting to come over and have me cook for him or something. I had to tell him how old I was, and then it was awkward after that. But when he'd remembered the meat sauce, I knew he'd been paying attention, so that is a good sign. He made my day! Probably just looking to marry before getting kicked out, but hey...I'd seen some college girls flirt with him before, and it was like he was scared of them. I even brought it up after that and said I saw some girls flirting with him and he should ask them out. I guess he thought they were too uppity or whatever. Some guys are real bold and want you to know they like you. I remember one who ended up being part of our crowd who was just back in town saw me walking to work (his friends lived across from me) and just started talking out the car window. Then he found out where I lived and, well, it's a long story, but some guys just come after you. In his case, he just liked a lot of women but he was so guileless about it that it didn't make anyone mad. I feel if you keep seeing someone and noticing each other, that's grounds for either of you to break the ice because it means you have things in common. So you may see them out or they will just show up where you work if it's public. Usually when that happened, I'd be the first to acknowledge them to take the pressure off because remember they are not sure. I met lots of guys that way. Meet them halfway if they keep appearing and you think you might like them.
spiderowl Posted February 1, 2016 Posted February 1, 2016 (edited) He looks at me and I catch his eye more than once. He tends to be fairly close by and probably not engaging with his friends all that much because he's busy looking elsewhere. He smiles, he's a bit nervous, he's polite (usually though some are a bit slow on that front). He asks about me. I can see him checking out male friends nearby to see if I'm paying any of them special attention. Although I'm absolutely hopeless at letting a guy know I like him (I just become ridiculously shy and cut off), I am incredibly intuitive when it comes to whether a guy likes me. I can just sense it somehow, even from across a darkish room where i can't even see the guy, I know he's there and going to appear. I suppose I'm just too good at putting guys off before they even start. It tends to backfire if I like someone Edited February 1, 2016 by spiderowl
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