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He found a new gf after a day of us being broken up...and wants me to wait for him??

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So I am 20, and he is 17. We dated on and off for about 3 years and the 4th year, it was stable. He recently broke up with me, because he claimed he wasn't happy, he said he didn't feel in love with me for about 3 months...so I don't understand why he kept the relationship going for this long. He got a girlfriend one day after breaking up with me. Literally one day. He was texting me once and complaining that I canceled our accounts, since we had a hulu together, and he ended up getting pissed off and sending me a picture of him and her smiling together. It hurt me so much! He keeps telling me that he wants to be with this girl, but that he loves me and he wants me to wait for him. He starts assuming and getting mad that I am seeing other people, or going out and having fun. Which I don't get why he's mad if he can be with other girls. I've been with my friend and her boyfriend for the past week because I need a distraction from the break up, and he texted me out of no where "oh, im sure you are having sex with them" and other stupid stuff like that. I think he just wants me to sit and wait around and do nothing when hes out and about with other girls. He was really mean during the break up too, I went to give him his promise ring back and he started telling me that his mom never liked me (when she did), and that his friends like his new girlfriend way better. He called me a sl** because I got a tinder and am trying to move on. I don't know what to do. I love him, but he is a jerk. Everyone says I should block him, but theres days where hes really sweet and says he misses me and loves me. So i don't know. Please help me. Why is he doing this? And what should I do? Just block him? Like some days he is super immature and tells me that hes more adult than me, but others hes alright and apologizes. Ugh Im happy if I dont see him or hear from him, but when he comes back, I start missing him. But he has a girlfriend. So i don't know. Today he texted me that he misses me and he wants to have sex (which i wasnt going to agree too), but then he changed his mind because he realized it was wrong. Im so confused by him. I don't get why he sent me that picture and would say mean stuff to me, and then be sweet and tell me to wait for him.

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You don't need to even be asking this. I was lurking but decided to post because this should be obvious. GO NC. Nothing more. Do not wait for him. Better yourself.

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Scarlett.O'hara Established Member

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Telling you he misses you and wants to have sex while he is with someone else isn't sweet. He is a creep! The horrible things he has said and done should be enough to put you off talking to him again. You deserve better.

 

He is an immature 17 year old boy. Stop allowing him to mess with your head.

 

It is time to go no contact and find someone older and more mature.

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marky00 Established Member

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So I am 20, and he is 17. We dated on and off for about 3 years and the 4th year, it was stable. He recently broke up with me, because he claimed he wasn't happy, he said he didn't feel in love with me for about 3 months...so I don't understand why he kept the relationship going for this long. He got a girlfriend one day after breaking up with me. Literally one day. He was texting me once and complaining that I canceled our accounts, since we had a hulu together, and he ended up getting pissed off and sending me a picture of him and her smiling together. It hurt me so much! He keeps telling me that he wants to be with this girl, but that he loves me and he wants me to wait for him. He starts assuming and getting mad that I am seeing other people, or going out and having fun. Which I don't get why he's mad if he can be with other girls. I've been with my friend and her boyfriend for the past week because I need a distraction from the break up, and he texted me out of no where "oh, im sure you are having sex with them" and other stupid stuff like that. I think he just wants me to sit and wait around and do nothing when hes out and about with other girls. He was really mean during the break up too, I went to give him his promise ring back and he started telling me that his mom never liked me (when she did), and that his friends like his new girlfriend way better. He called me a sl** because I got a tinder and am trying to move on. I don't know what to do. I love him, but he is a jerk. Everyone says I should block him, but theres days where hes really sweet and says he misses me and loves me. So i don't know. Please help me. Why is he doing this? And what should I do? Just block him? Like some days he is super immature and tells me that hes more adult than me, but others hes alright and apologizes. Ugh Im happy if I dont see him or hear from him, but when he comes back, I start missing him. But he has a girlfriend. So i don't know. Today he texted me that he misses me and he wants to have sex (which i wasnt going to agree too), but then he changed his mind because he realized it was wrong. Im so confused by him. I don't get why he sent me that picture and would say mean stuff to me, and then be sweet and tell me to wait for him.

 

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Feelings change. People fall out of love and back in love (not as common) with the same person all the time.

 

100 percent he was seeing the other girl during your relationship. Not saying he was physically cheating but he was definitely emotionally cheating on you. He's a branch swinger. He didn't want to leave you until the next one was sown up.

 

All his behavior is now all ego based. The quicker you move on, the more nonchalant and aloof you are, the more it will bruise his ego. This can sometimes lead to them coming back but they then often leave again once they know they have you.

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Walk away you deserve better you're 20 grow up and focus on your life he's an immature boy who will never grow up I should know I watched mine dump me after we got engaged he went off and had a baby and still came knocking on my door whilst she was pregnant ect he won't change. Go better yourself be you and the right person will come along yes it hurts and you love them with all your heart but focusing on you will make them realise or make you realise you never really deserved to be treated like that.

I hope this helps good luck finding yourself!x

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At 17, he is still a child, so expect childish behavior.

Run as fast as you can. Really.

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d0nnivain Established Member

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He is only 17. No 17 year old knows his own mind.

 

 

You tried. You tried for 3 years as teens. It didn't work.

 

 

As you mature into adulthood & are on the verge of being 21 & having a whole new world of dating open up, you don't need to be tied to a high school boy.

 

 

You are not a bad person for seeking a rebound relationship. Do understand that is what you would have gotten from Tinder. You aren't ready.

 

 

Give yourself time to grieve & figure out what went wrong with this before you start dating again. For now listen to your friends. This guy is bad news. Let him remain an EX. Block him and focus on yourself.

stillafool Established Member

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Isn't it against the law for you to have sex with a 17 year old? Definitely let him go.

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marky00 Established Member

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Isn't it against the law for you to have sex with a 17 year old? Definitely let him go.

 

Hmmm, where did she say they were having sex?

Arieswoman Established Member

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"So I am 20, and he is 17. We dated on and off for about 3 years and the 4th year, it was stable"

 

 

So you dated him from when he was 13 years old ???!!!

 

 

I am at a loss for words !!

Toodaloo Established Member

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Urgh let it go and don't bother with him. tell him to get a life and seek his thrills else where *preferably with his left hand*...

marky00 Established Member

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"So I am 20, and he is 17. We dated on and off for about 3 years and the 4th year, it was stable"

 

 

So you dated him from when he was 13 years old ???!!!

 

 

I am at a loss for words !!

 

lol its ok,

 

Year 1 and 2 dating = having a thick shake at McDonalds.

Toodaloo Established Member

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lol its ok,

 

Year 1 and 2 dating = having a thick shake at McDonalds.

 

So thats what I have been doing wrong!

 

Next date I am taking him to Maccy D rather than that cute french place down the road!

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