Does he really "need to be alone for awhile" or has he dumped me for his housemate?

[JJP32]

My boyfriend and I were together almost two years. I have two children from a previous relationship. He has had issues with intimacy and last year broke up with me just before our first anniversary, because he was moving interstate for work and didn’t know what to do, but came back a week later all remorseful and full of love.

We have maintained a LDR since January 2015 with no dramas and remained committed and close and loving. It wasn’t until he moved out with a female housemate from his share accommodation in October that we began having serious issues. He had been very secretive about her and he refused to cease living with her. Yet swore I was the only one for him.

I threw him a surprise b day party new years eve, he was very touched. A few days later he told his mate at a family bbq after I’d left to put kids to bed that he was going to move the kids and I there to be a family. He came home to me the next morning and ended it with a bunch of cliched lines.

It has been 3 weeks. He wants to remain friends. I have struggled with it.

I don’t know what to think or do.. I love him dearly. His correspondence has been quite cold.

What is happening?

[RySant]

A few days later he told his mate at a family bbq after I’d left to put kids to bed that he was going to move the kids and I there to be a family. He came home to me the next morning and ended it with a bunch of cliched lines.

It has been 3 weeks. He wants to remain friends. I have struggled with it.

I don’t know what to think or do.. I love him dearly. His correspondence has been quite cold.

What is happening?

 

His mate = The female girl housemate?

[JJP32]

His bloke mate back home at his brothers bbq.

[d0nnivain]

He sounds like a commitment phobe to me.

 

 

I'd get clarification. I need to be alone for a while can mean a lot. I have said that to my husband but it means I want to go upstairs for 2 hours & watch a chick flick or go read a book somewhere undisturbed. Time to himself for more then a few hours is the "I need space" BS which is a min-break up with training wheels so the dumper can make it easier on him/her self. Don't put up with it. Make him chose: you are together or you are broken up. Also stand firm that his little freak out last time was his 2nd chance. If he picks apart, this time it's forever