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Ok, let me start off by saying the background of this; this guy I've known for almost over a year now, we tried to date (but that didn't go well). we used to be really close...now we're just friends, but

 

He says if he ever wants to get things done he has to spend less time with me. And he said I just seem like a job to him now...this hurts really badly. He and I used to be such good friends....

 

And i don't understand why he can't be there for me any more. He says he just wants me to be happy, and last week he asked "do you think we could make each other happy" I dunno if he was suggesting anything. I haven't heard from him much since...he disappeared for three days and said a lot has been going on. no phone calls, but then again we're just friends so I wouldnt expect to get one now.

 

So what am I supposed to do? confronting him will probably just make everything worse. i can't imagine coming up to him and asking him why he can't be there for me... I would come off as totally scary, and even more work. I don't want to be like that.

 

 

Hope this doesn't sound crazy :confused:

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Originally posted by wakamiya

He says if he ever wants to get things done he has to spend less time with me. And he said I just seem like a job to him now...this hurts really badly.

 

Translation: you're a burden.

 

 

So what am I supposed to do? confronting him will probably just make everything worse. i can't imagine coming up to him and asking him why he can't be there for me... I would come off as totally scary, and even more work.

 

Give him time and space. To be honest, it sounds like you're way keener on this "friendship" than he is. Find other people to be "friends" with. Let him come back to you.

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