IronZ Posted January 30, 2016 Posted January 30, 2016 Roughly about 2 months. I met her on an OLD site. We have gotten to the point where we've grown a lot closer. She texts me sweet nothings all the time when she's not working or busy. While I would like our text conversations to be better this doesn't really bug me because our face to face time is always great. We're at the point now where we see each other about twice a week on average. She lives close to my job so I drive over there after work sometimes. We've been physical and she kisses me passionately. She's asked me to stay over a couple of times but I had not prepared for that. Will be doing so in the next few weeks though. Her language and energy seems to suggest she's very interested in a future with me. We've already planned a fun little romantic road trip getaway in the next few weeks. This is couple stuff. Yet we haven't labeled ourselves yet. We haven't really referred to each other as bf/gf. I'm wondering when the timing to do this would be right.. Anyways I think I've found someone very nice who is on my level. I just have to keep up the momentum while not overexerting things. I'm a little worried of moving too fast sometimes. Like the bf/gf thing. Or updating your Facebook status. Or using the dreaded L word too soon. When should this stuff happen? And what's the right way to bring any of it up? Last thing I want to do is go there too soon and scare her off.
smudge21 Posted January 30, 2016 Posted January 30, 2016 No idea what the rules are to be honest. I've screwed up many times by either being too keen or by holding off. It all comes down to the person you're with and you have to judge each situation differently. She's clearly as into you as you are into her, and it's nice that you're both happy to take things at a steady pace. I'm firmly believe there comes a time when it just feels right to do something, to say something and you have to go for it as it's right for you. You always run the risk of saying the wrong thing, but also of not saying the right thing. You never though, she may say it first...
lilmissjava Posted January 30, 2016 Posted January 30, 2016 Facebook relationship status -> don't do that. As for timing, there are no rules of the heart here. As long as the interaction is on an even keel, just go with the natural flow. 1
Author IronZ Posted January 31, 2016 Author Posted January 31, 2016 No idea what the rules are to be honest. I've screwed up many times by either being too keen or by holding off. It all comes down to the person you're with and you have to judge each situation differently. She's clearly as into you as you are into her, and it's nice that you're both happy to take things at a steady pace. I'm firmly believe there comes a time when it just feels right to do something, to say something and you have to go for it as it's right for you. You always run the risk of saying the wrong thing, but also of not saying the right thing. You never though, she may say it first... It's definitely nice that we're both on the same level. I feel like at this point we can be relaxed about it. Valentine's Day is coming up as is our little adventure so I think that will bring us a lot closer. Will be spending more time with her as well as staying over and vice versa. The love you thing should feel natural so I need to feel it from her too before I say it. Facebook relationship status -> don't do that. As for timing, there are no rules of the heart here. As long as the interaction is on an even keel, just go with the natural flow. I'm curious about that relationship status thing. Obviously we haven't done that but in the past girls have been ok with that. I haven't even suggested it but is it something that should happen in the near future? To me it sort of suggests that we're ok with letting other people know we are together. I don't know how she would react to that kind of request and I don't want to turn her off from it but wouldn't someone who was really into you not mind the idea of being linked to you?
deckard11 Posted January 31, 2016 Posted January 31, 2016 Don't rush things and don't even think about "love" right now dude. Way too soon to be talking about futures and stuff. But then again, what the hell do I know? But I have been witness to many idiots rushing things too fast.
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