KindlyUnspoken23 Posted January 30, 2016 Posted January 30, 2016 This is in relation to my previous post : http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/566733-how-slow-too-slow -We went out on Wednesday and had a great time. When we got home, same sort of deal and told each other we had fun, etc. On Thursday, we talked for 2 hours and kind of went back into the "getting to know each other" frame of mind. He ended up having to go to his friend's bachelor party in Boston that weekend but had hoped we could've hung out if he didn't. I heard from him Fri night as well as Saturday afternoon while he was in Boston/with his friends, and that actually meant a lot. This week, the communication has been awful. I feel like I've been reaching out first, his time to respond is getting MUCH longer as the week has gone on. We did plan on Tuesday to go out this Sunday and planned where to go (but didn't plan a time). From what I've gathered, most of the nights this week he has been with his family, and that's fine, because I value a guy who's very close with his family. However, today, I didn't hear from him like I usually do in the morning. I texted him at 1130 and asked if his morning was going okay. He texted back at noon and said it had been a rough morning and he wasn't feeling hot and wanted to go back to bed. I wrote back and said I was sorry to hear that, hoped he felt better, and to keep me posted on Sunday. I have not heard back since, nor have I reached out since I feel like I've done that way too much this week. I decided to check his Tindr profile (where we met), and he had added some new pictures (not recent - just new), including one of him and his ex girlfriend. That really annoyed me because I don't even "swipe right" if a guy has what could be a girlfriend or an ex in their pictures. The fact that I feel the communication has suffered this week is also upsetting. It'll be 3 weeks tomorrow since we first started talking, and it's been 2 weeks today since our first date. I am in no way, shape or form wanting to have the "where is this going" conversation, but if he's not interested, I need to know. Then I wonder if I'm just not feeling it because I need someone who wants to be with me and talk to me. If I don't hear from him by tomorrow night, then he's a huge jerk for silently cancelling our date, that's for sure. I just needed to vent. Maybe someone will have advice?
Scarlett.O'hara Posted January 30, 2016 Posted January 30, 2016 If you met on a dating app he is probably seeing other women casually as well so he may not take this as seriously as you do right now. The new picture of him and his ex(?) is more concerning. That would be a red flag that I wouldn't ignore.
lilmissjava Posted January 30, 2016 Posted January 30, 2016 Although talking everyday isn't a requirement in early dating stages, if that has been the pattern and now it is noticeably different and adding in the photo with ex, you should leave it where it is right now and don't reach out.
Recommended Posts