Ninabel Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 Hey everyone, I'm really confused about this 'relationship' i have with this guy, let's call him Y. I'm 22 and i've been studying for 4 years in this school. And this guy is older, and i've never had the opportunity to talk to him or be friends with him, until last year where we had to work a workshop together with other friends. I realised that i liked him. So I started getting closer to him, we'd talk often on Facebook and at school, since we have the same circle of friends. During the summer I had to go back to my city, and he'd always start the conversation on Facebook. I went to his city one day to see some friends and I asked if he'd like to join, he said yes but later told me he couldn't make it. We didn't see eachother the whole summer but we talked casually. The school year started again and it was all pretty normal between us. So a couple weeks ago, a friend of ours, A, came from abroad and we were all hanging around at a friend's. And we spent the night there. Since all the beds were taken, we were left with the sofabed, and we slept together in it. During the night he started caressing my legs, my arms, and he tried to get his hand under my shirt, but i stopped him whenever he started going too far. But still continued to caress my legs. At some point I started caressing him too. It went on for a while then i fell asleep. The next day A told a friend that he was 100% sure that Y and I like eachother. Anyway the next day I went to my friend's house and there were other friends, then Y came over and we all went out for a drink and came back, and slept there again. We slept in the same bed again, and he started to caress me again, and it went a little further this time. At some point his face was 1 inch away from mine and he didn't even try to kiss me, I really wanted to kiss him so I did and he kissed me back. We were quite horny I have to admit and our friends were sleeping in the same room, so we couldn't do anything. I fell asleep, then everybody woke up and went to the other room, and then he woke up and kissed me on the cheek and joined the others. When I woke up we behaved like nothing happened, then I had to go home. Later that night my girl friend called me to join her and others at a friend's. I arrived and didn't know he was there, he went out to get something. Then came the sleeping time again, and we slept in the same bed again, kinda became normal. I was too tired to do anything, I didn't react much to his caresses. He kissed me while I was sleeping. In the morning I had to leave and didn't see him for the week end. When I saw him again and nothing happened since that day. I see him every day, and we work late at school every night. My girl friend talked to A,who's pretty close to Y, and she asked him if he had talked to him about me, he said yes, and one thing is sure is that he likes me, but he never talks about his feelings. So now I'm pretty sure he likes me and I don't know if I should make a move, I don't wanna scare him or look too needy, but I really like him and I don't like the situation being like this. I kinda feel he's too shy, or maybe I intimidate him. I don't know. Right now i'm on vacation, and I was wondering if I should go visit him and ask him out or something, since we're always with friends. I really need someone's opinion besides people who know us, i'm very confused. PS: sorry for any mistakes, english is not my first language. Thanks in advance for reading this long, boring story!
d0nnivain Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 Your English is fine. He likes you just fine as a bedmate. Until & unless he asks you on a proper date he only wants what he can take from you when it's easy & convenient. If you want casual fine, do whatever. If you want something meaningful, stop sharing a bed with him until you get some kind of commitment / exclusivity. 1
Author Ninabel Posted January 29, 2016 Author Posted January 29, 2016 That's what I'm planning on doing, eventhough there's a part of me that's convinced he's just shy to make a serious move. Anyway thanks a lot for your advice and time! i'll keep you posted if anything happens
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