ashleybobashly Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 So I've been dating this guy for the last 2 months. We met on POF. Everything has been great...until last night. He works 13 hours a day Monday-Sat. I have been completely understanding and I appreciate that he works so much and actually cares about his career. He never really texts me during the day because he is busy. Yesterday was different. He texted me most of the day and I really liked the attention I was getting. He kept talking about when he would get to meet my BFF/Cousin because I talk about her all the time. When he got home from work last night, which is usually the time we text non-stop each night, he was MIA. The last text I got from him was at 7:30pm saying that he liked my passive aggressiveness. That was in response to me telling him that I really enjoyed that he texted me all day even if it was talking about my cousin all day. He has not texted me since. I have sent 2 questions to him already today with no response. Should I be worried? What do guys mean when they call you passive aggressive? I really like him and don't want it to end just yet. Am I overreacting?
Redhead14 Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 So I've been dating this guy for the last 2 months. We met on POF. Everything has been great...until last night. He works 13 hours a day Monday-Sat. I have been completely understanding and I appreciate that he works so much and actually cares about his career. He never really texts me during the day because he is busy. Yesterday was different. He texted me most of the day and I really liked the attention I was getting. He kept talking about when he would get to meet my BFF/Cousin because I talk about her all the time. When he got home from work last night, which is usually the time we text non-stop each night, he was MIA. The last text I got from him was at 7:30pm saying that he liked my passive aggressiveness. That was in response to me telling him that I really enjoyed that he texted me all day even if it was talking about my cousin all day. He has not texted me since. I have sent 2 questions to him already today with no response. Should I be worried? What do guys mean when they call you passive aggressive? I really like him and don't want it to end just yet. Am I overreacting? I don't understand his application of the passive-aggressive description regarding your message. Passive-aggressiveness is a term used to describe an indirect expression of hostility, such as through procrastination, stubbornness, sullen behavior, or deliberate or repeated failure to accomplish requested tasks for which one is (often explicitly) responsible. To me it appears he was trying to use big words without really understanding their meaning. If he's working and hasn't responded to 2 questions, just let it be. Don't reach out to him again. Let him contact you no matter how long it takes, if he does. And, no you shouldn't be worrying. Just stay focused on your life and what you need to be doing. Keep busy -- if the guy drops out of sight, he drops out of sight. It stinks, but it happens and usually it means you've dodged a bullet Really, though, just sit back. It's a work day. Assume he's busy and see what happens tonight. You've pinged him twice, he knows you're there. Don't reach out anymore. Doing that will come across as needy/desperate/worried.
Gaeta Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 The last text I got from him was at 7:30pm saying that he liked my passive aggressiveness. That sounds like a sarcastic reply to something he didn't like to hear. Did you say something negative or accusative?
Author ashleybobashly Posted January 29, 2016 Author Posted January 29, 2016 Not anything I would consider to be a jerk statement or answer. I usually try to think about my responses to not make the other person mad. I know we can't help it all the time. He jokes with me and I joke with him. So when I do make a mean response and I don't mean it I send a winky face with it.
smudge21 Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 It's so nice when someone shows a lot of interest and keeps in touch, but the moment that contact drops off, we notice it so much more as opposed to others in our life who we speak to on a less frequent basis. Try not to think about this, you've reached out now, so let him come to you. Overthinking will only lead to panic texting and more worry.
smackie9 Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 Go find something else to do with your life.
Jejangles Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 That sounds like a sarcastic reply to something he didn't like to hear. Did you say something negative or accusative? My guess is he took the comment about it being "nice to hear from him all day, even if it was about her cousin" badly... This is the problem with text, it's easy to read things into what someone else says. I can see how he would read that badly - it's kind of positive reinforcement (but could also be read as criticism of his usual communication style) but also pointed out a problem with his topic of conversation. There's definitely a few ways you could read that, and it seems he read it in a negative way... 2
introverted1 Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 So I've been dating this guy for the last 2 months. We met on POF. Everything has been great...until last night. He works 13 hours a day Monday-Sat. I have been completely understanding and I appreciate that he works so much and actually cares about his career. He never really texts me during the day because he is busy. Yesterday was different. He texted me most of the day and I really liked the attention I was getting. He kept talking about when he would get to meet my BFF/Cousin because I talk about her all the time. When he got home from work last night, which is usually the time we text non-stop each night, he was MIA. The last text I got from him was at 7:30pm saying that he liked my passive aggressiveness. That was in response to me telling him that I really enjoyed that he texted me all day even if it was talking about my cousin all day. He has not texted me since. I have sent 2 questions to him already today with no response. Should I be worried? What do guys mean when they call you passive aggressive? I really like him and don't want it to end just yet. Am I overreacting? How did you say the bit bolded above? Is it possibly your bf thought you were making a dig or implying that he is more interested in meeting your cousin than in texting you? I was writing as Jejangles posted. Sorry for the dupe!
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