Xttnx Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 Ok so I'm a senior in HS & got accepted into college and was browsing an organization and came across this cute Guy's profile (that I do not know) and friend requested him. Decided to shoot him a message and here's our convo. Did I creep him out? I feel so embarrassed I don't know what to do please help me: "hey ahh sorry this is random, but I came across your FB and just wanted to say you seem pretty cool :)" him: "LOL thanks? Haha" me: "Lol np. I got into U & all my cousins are in VSA so I was browsing VSA stuff haha" him: "Definitely should join." "Best decision of my life haha." "Well I go to UC" "but VSA all around :)" me: "I've sadly never really been surrounded by Viets unless it's fam or church so it seems like a nice change :D" him: "yeah it definitely is" "it's like going on vacation with your family vs your friends" "haha" me: "ohhhhh that sounds über fun!! I've heard great things about it, but one of my friends goes to UN VSA and he doesn't like it anymore bc he said they gossiped too much or something.." Him: "lmao yeah" "UN's has gone a bit down hill" "it's all about the leadership" "but every VSA has its ups and downs" Me: "ah I see. What about U's?¿" him: "U's is always really strong" "definitely check them out" "hey I gotta bounce though need some sleep for work tomorrow" "it was nice talking to you" me: "oh ok, ttyl then?" HE THEN PROCEEDS to being on and off again on Facebook messenger for the next 30 minutes so he was still talking to others instead of sleeping right away... I hope I didn't creep him out What could he be thinking of me right now? And what should I do?
basil67 Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 You probably didn't creep him out. Most likely he just had other things to look at and wasn't interested in spending lots of time talking to a stranger. He has probably forgotten you already. No need to do anything. 1
Robratory Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 Oh, no! Nothing you did was creepy nor even inappropriate. And actually, his conversation seemed ok, considering you two haven't even met. Is this guy in the college you've been accepted? I tell you this from the point of view of being 58 years old. If you like a guy, let him know. If he doesn't like you, well, that's how it goes. That happens to us guys all the time. But never feel creepy. You should never be embarrassed about wanting guys or a guy. Welcome to the human race!
Author Xttnx Posted January 29, 2016 Author Posted January 29, 2016 You probably didn't creep him out. Most likely he just had other things to look at and wasn't interested in spending lots of time talking to a stranger. He has probably forgotten you already. No need to do anything. I thought my first and ESPECIALLY my last message were extremely creepy. The "oh ok, ttyl then?" Was kinda weird coming from a complete stranger. He saw the message right away when I sent it but ignored it
Author Xttnx Posted January 29, 2016 Author Posted January 29, 2016 Oh, no! Nothing you did was creepy nor even inappropriate. And actually, his conversation seemed ok, considering you two haven't even met. Is this guy in the college you've been accepted? I tell you this from the point of view of being 58 years old. If you like a guy, let him know. If he doesn't like you, well, that's how it goes. That happens to us guys all the time. But never feel creepy. You should never be embarrassed about wanting guys or a guy. Welcome to the human race! No he's not haha but it's a college close by! I only felt creepy because he ignored my last message about talking later and I felt like I am coming on too strong when we don't even know each other
basil67 Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 I thought my first and ESPECIALLY my last message were extremely creepy. The "oh ok, ttyl then?" Was kinda weird coming from a complete stranger. He saw the message right away when I sent it but ignored it No, it wasn't creepy. But there was also no need for him to respond to it. He said goodbye (by saying that he needed to go) and you acknowledged. End of conversation and totally normal. 1
testmeasure Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 When people say: "How are you doing today?" Often they really just mean "Hi". They're not actually asking you to stop and explain your day in detail. The same thing with goodbye. Some people say a bunch of stuff. Some people could type exactly what you did and just mean "bye". I would stick to using a . and not a ? though. You can actually tell them that you are going to talk to them later and it doesn't mean anything more than "bye". It probably did you a benefit that he kept it short. Had it gone on and on, with you being a stranger, that might have started to get creepy. If you're friends on Facebook now, that's perfect. You can interject little comments on stuff he posts. Then when it seems right, you can message him again.
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