Bumbacrumba Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 Firstly hi everyone and thank you for taking the time to read. So I caught my partner at the time cheating on me when I went to his house after. I wasn't even angry but relieved it's like it explained all his weird behaviour and why he would randomly have mood swings with me over nothing. I wasn't really even hurt but had unanswered question which a few days later we met up and spoke about he said he loves me but is not in love with me he was crying a lot and that he was sorry etc the usual I didn't really say much just that I don't get it as a few days before he was buying me a promise ring. I accept that he no longer loves me and doesn't want to be with me and move on with my life with maybe in future us being friends but not 100% sure. I then book a holiday and my friend decided to join me while I was away I text my ex to call my sister tell her to call me as I couldn't get through to her number. Maybe the area code I don't know but after I did that he became really nasty and said why would I help you, you are on holiday with another man we are over! Case closed and **** you basically I acted out of anger and said nasty things like he's a lost cause and that he hasn't changed in the slightest and I'm disgusted in him. I love this man and always have however I know he isn't being a good person and he seems very lost within himself. I have no desire to be with him and am taking this time to better myself.What I don't get is how he could look me in the eye tell me he doesn't love me and I'm still trying to be the better person. Why would someone respond that way to me simply asking a small favour? Bitterness? Not functioning on an adult level? Any insight would be appreciated Thank you x
DarkHorizon Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 What I don't get is how he could look me in the eye tell me he doesn't love me and I'm still trying to be the better person. Why would someone respond that way to me simply asking a small favour? Bitterness? Not functioning on an adult level? Really, if you are ready to move on and not considering any sort of reconciliation, don't worry about those questions. Let it go. It's simply not worth it and you won't find your answers. People are different, and act and react in ways we couldn't possibly imagine. Regardless, once the relationship is over, it is pointless and stressful to ruminate on those sort of thoughts because it will only make the process even more painful to you. Your mind is trying to find answers so it can protect your ego in the future. That's really all that is. It won't find the answers and will be spinning in circles until you take charge and put a stop on it.
Author Bumbacrumba Posted January 30, 2016 Author Posted January 30, 2016 Thank you! Very valid point and something I think I needed to hear!
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