Bantosm Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 This post is a followup to this thread:http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/491476-take-date-when-unattractive-risk-waiting-couple-weeks That date ended up being one of the worst that I've had. Beyond my concerns that I mentioned in the link. The day of the date brought what I can only call bad luck/timing. That day my landlord was scheduled to fix the plaster in the kitchen which had cracked. I was already tired from too much work and he was there for 3-4 hours which was stressful. Then he managed to bust my front door handle. I started to fix that and as he was leaving his truck wouldn't start the battery was dead, so I had to charge his truck's battery. That left me only an hour to shower and relax before the date. I go to the date and I had just met her and as it was one of her old friends worked there. She came back and we started talking. I could tell she was very nervous. Then just as she was starting to relax her friend came to an adjacent table and they starting talking and it was getting awkward. Her friend left and she said she didn't want a relationship. We talked more but I was so tired I hard time making conversation. I thought we had a good connection but at the end she went back to talk to her friend and I didn't wait around I was fed up. She came out and was going to give me a hug but I just waved her off. I ended up saying something that she took the wrong and things went downhill from there. I hadn't had any contact with her for awhile until one my friends who, I found her from, told her how I thought the date went terrible. She got upset and blocked him. It didn't make sense because she didn't want anything to do with me. My friend took getting block by her badly and got very upset. I was going try and get her to add him again. I went to place of work and was going to say something like your really hurt the guy. I went to pay and she looked considerable more attractive than she had on our date. She seemed flirty and I don't think she even recognized who I was. I didn't say anything about my friend who had caused some unneeded drama. Now granted when I went on that date with her I looked fairly bad. I took video clip and I seen I had some kind seed stuck to my face. I'm not sure if it was there at date time but it was right before. My friend says she was going to to something very bad about me. I'm not sure if was my appearance or if was the seed. All things considered to do think worth on trying a second shot? The only reason I ask I thought we had a connection when we talked and she has a certain look that I'm attracted to, and she seemed to have some problems about dating. I'm not sure if she's dated anyone at least hasn't showed it on her fb page. Now I look good. I feel good. My strategy would be just to go up and flirt and ask her out. In the event that we go out should I mention the bad date?
lilmissjava Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 This is like a year and a half later. You really remember that date like it was yesterday? What difference does all that make now? A little too much drama though, you might end up on the block list.
Author Bantosm Posted January 29, 2016 Author Posted January 29, 2016 I can remember the details on all my terrible or exceptional dates. If I have a normal date a few days later and the details slip my mind. I'm not really sure why that it is. The only reason that it matters because I hate to have things fall because of an excuse. I knew going in to the date that I wasn't feeling right. I don't mind failing but not when I have a major excuse. Sure I could end on the block list but I don't think she remembers who I am or at least she didn't the last time I saw her.
lilmissjava Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 Well you have nothing to lose then. Good luck!
Author Bantosm Posted January 29, 2016 Author Posted January 29, 2016 There are still risks involved she could say no. She could have a bf. She might not be attracted to me even when I felt confidant in my looks. I could handle losing out because of any of those situations. What I have a hard time handling is because of some excuse and thinking how things might be different if this or that.
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