lovelifesmile Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 how do I tell my parents that I'm serious about my relationship and I want them to have my back because this is something that really matters to me? what do I tell them? how do I say it?
bathtub-row Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 How old are you? The first thing that comes to mind is that perhaps your parents have a good reason for hating your bf. Maybe you could explain the situation in a little more detail. 1
basil67 Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 A quick look at your history explains why your parents hate him. I would too if I was your parent! You're committing yourself to an arsehole 2
basil67 Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 I pasted some of your history below. Please re-read it from the angle of your parents how this jerk is treating their daughter. Frankly, your parents would be remiss if they gave this relationship their blessing. They raised you to be happy and make good relationship choices - but this guy is bringing too much misery to you. 1. me and my boyfriend were talking today and he says “i peeped that you been gaining weight I didn't want to say anything but I know you were going to get mad... then says "you need to slow down on the eating because you know how I feel about big girls. meanwhile I'm only 16 and weigh about 115 , how do I respond my feelings are hurt but it seems he just has no remorse on how i feel 2. I'm 16 he's 17 no we fall asleep on the phone it can be 1:00 if I fall asleep he'll be mad and call me 100 times 3. so recently me and my boyfriend had an argument about me giving him head... I told him in a year maybe to see where we're at he says to me if I love him I would do it.. I didn't know how to feel when he said that because either way I love him but please help..
Author lovelifesmile Posted January 29, 2016 Author Posted January 29, 2016 How old are you? The first thing that comes to mind is that perhaps your parents have a good reason for hating your bf. Maybe you could explain the situation in a little more detail. I'm 16 he's 17 going on 18 we've been together for almost 8 months but my parents just won't allow me to do anything at all and I feel as a parent you should support me decisions that I make... but they jut don't understand they'd rather put me on punishment
T-16bullseyeWompRat Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 I'm 16 he's 17 going on 18 we've been together for almost 8 months but my parents just won't allow me to do anything at all and I feel as a parent you should support me decisions that I make... but they jut don't understand they'd rather put me on punishment I know this won't happen, but I would enjoy reading you responding to your own posts when you are a parent of a 16 year old girl dating some horny teenage douchebag. I will say this, if what they are doing isn't working, as a parent then I would just do the opposite approach after a while. Sit you down and tell you "look honey we think he's a little sht DB, but understand you want to date him. So we will be here to help comfort you once he's done hurting you as he undoubtedly will. We love you and just want what is best for you.". Then let you run off to get your little teenage heart broken. Perhaps you will wisen up with experience as words of wisdom have little to no effect on a teenage mind sometimes. 1
darkbloom Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 OP, All I can say is you're young. In a few years, you'll be able to laugh with your parents that you wanted to get serious with this creep.
losangelena Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 I'm 16 he's 17 going on 18 we've been together for almost 8 months but my parents just won't allow me to do anything at all and I feel as a parent you should support me decisions that I make... but they jut don't understand they'd rather put me on punishment They're your PARENTS, not your friends, they DON'T need to be supportive of a relationship that they don't think is good for you. If they don't like your BF and are not supportive, there's probably a good reason beyond wanting to be mean to you. If my 16 year old daughter (I don't have one, lol) was dating a guy like the one you're dating, I may not even let you leave the house. 6
bathtub-row Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 I'm 16 he's 17 going on 18 we've been together for almost 8 months but my parents just won't allow me to do anything at all and I feel as a parent you should support me decisions that I make... but they jut don't understand they'd rather put me on punishment No, you're misunderstanding your parent's role. Their goal is to keep you safe, protected, happy, fed, sheltered, and to grow up to be a person who can make good decisions for herself. Right now, with the way you're acting, thinking and making decisions, they're probably thinking they failed you miserably. You need to lose this loser bf and require more from the guy you're with. If you want to be really, really smart, start thinking very seriously about how you plan to live the rest of your life. Like, what are your plans for college or trade school? How will you support yourself so that you're never, ever dependent on a man or anyone else to take care of you? These are the bigger questions in your life. Getting deeply committed to someone so soon in your life is a huge mistake. There's a great big world out there and you've already corralled yourself into this small and - if I might say - highly undesirable cage of a relationship. All I can think is, "What a collasal waste of your life!" I hope that you will always keep one thing in mind and never forget it: your parents are the only humans on this planet who 100% have your best interests and happiness at heart. Everyone else is suspect. I would advise you to be smart and pay attention to your parents. 2
d0nnivain Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 You understand that your parents will be supportive of a healthy loving relationship you have with a guy who they trust. Your current BF is none of those things. If you want your parents' support, start making better decisions.
basil67 Posted January 29, 2016 Posted January 29, 2016 You've received some great advice. I just want to reiterate that it's not a parents job to support you in whatever foolhardy decisions you might make. It's their job to guide you and protect you from yourself if need be. When you have a great boyfriend who treats you with respect, they will respect your relationship.
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