Here is an insight and some hope for ppl who were dumped.

[Jc396]

Well this Saturday will make 5months since being coldly dumped by my first boyfriend of 5 years. You can read my other threads about the details of the breakup and how devestated I was feeling.

 

Today I have a great job that I got a month after he left me, it's exactly the kind of job I hoped I would get after college. I have been on a diet since this year began and I lost 10lbs so far. I have more friends then I had the entire time I was with my ex, almost every other day I'm going out with friends. I have been to many new places in my city that I didn't know existed when I was with my ex. I have gotten back into hobbies that I neglected such as hiking, I now plan on hiking Yellowstone this summer I definitely wouldn't of done it if I was still with him since he wasn't an outdoor person. I have more money now since I'm not constantly spending it on dates and food out with my ex like I used to. I have had more time to try new things out, I went caving last Saturday which wouldn't of happened if I was with my ex who occupied a lot of my free time. I now have more confidence than I once did. I am more willing to talk to people. I am more open and approachable. I am willing to put myself outside my comfort zone. I have met plenty of attractive guys that have qualities that I didn't find in my ex so I know there is hope for my love life in the future.

 

The point I'm making is that I had a really hard time after the breakup like everyone else. It does get better. If I would have known that I would be here today after losing what I thought was the most important person in my life, I would have not believed it. I was even considering ending my life cause I felt like I didn't have anything other then him. The pain is blinding but it will eventually clear. Just keep yourselves busy and take each day at a time. Rely on friends, go to new places, meet new people, focus on your hobbies, focus on your health, set an outrageous goal and work for it. And most importantly Say YES to every opportunity you get even if it seems out of your comfort zone. I can guarantee you that the pain of being dumped will get better.