Lights Posted June 7, 2005 Posted June 7, 2005 What are some high-percentage forward approaches and good methods for quick pick-ups? Most of the times when I see a woman I might like, it seems that I'm not in a place that lends itself to socializing. (This happens mainly because work and life in general for me are "sausage fests", so the only women I usually see are just ones I see incidentally around.)
Author Lights Posted June 8, 2005 Author Posted June 8, 2005 I'm not sure if I described things incorrectly ... I meant what types of approaches would one use to very quickly get a date or real phone number from someone who might be interesting? (This often may be in a place which isn't really meant for socializing.) I'm assuming something forward would be in order, but I'm not sure what generally works in that regard--so far whenever I've tried a forward approach, it either hasn't been quick enough or it wasn't taken seriously.
Humbledog Posted June 8, 2005 Posted June 8, 2005 Whenever I go out on the prowl I have found that the harder you try or the more agressive you are makes you seem desperate, therefore, you have little or nothing to offer! To me when I'm not trying and just relax and be myself I get more hits!! Get a women or two around you with casual conversation then more start looking and than the snowball affect!!!! Unfortunatley you must look like Don Johnson to get the full effect!!
Author Lights Posted June 8, 2005 Author Posted June 8, 2005 Originally posted by Humbledog Sorry, Just in a playful mood!! Whenever I go out on the prowl I have found that the harder you try or the more agressive you are makes you seem desperate, therefore, you have little or nothing to offer! To me when I'm not trying and just relax and be myself I get more hits!! That's nice. Unfortunately, where I come from it's not so easy. I'm always myself--that never was in question. However, not trying doesn't cut it around here. If you go around not trying to meet anyone out here, you will simply spend your days entirely isolated save for viewing people from a distance--people here don't do any approaching. Get a women or two around you with casual conversation then more start looking and than the snowball affect!!!! Unfortunatley you must look like Don Johnson to get the full effect!! This is a problem. If I knew how to make any nearby given woman or any given pair of women immediately drop what she is/they are doing and hold a conversation it'd definitely be easier, provided, of course, that I too have the time in that given location to hold a conversation. Having time to converse isn't necessarily a given, though--that's why I asked for help on high-percentage forward approaches, in case chit-chatting just isn't going to happen. I do not know who Don Johnson is, though.
Humbledog Posted June 8, 2005 Posted June 8, 2005 Originally posted by Lights That's nice. Unfortunately, where I come from it's not so easy. I'm always myself--that never was in question. However, not trying doesn't cut it around here. If you go around not trying to meet anyone out here, you will simply spend your days entirely isolated save for viewing people from a distance--people here don't do any approaching. WOW, Hell has an internet connection now? This is a problem. If I knew how to make any nearby given woman or any given pair of women immediately drop what she is/they are doing and hold a conversation it'd definitely be easier, provided, of course, that I too have the time in that given location to hold a conversation. Having time to converse isn't necessarily a given, though--that's why I asked for help on high-percentage forward approaches, in case chit-chatting just isn't going to happen. I do not know who Don Johnson is, though. Directly asking for what you want generally is successful especially if the subjects are intoxicated! Do they have beer in hell? Honestly, I'm trying to figure out what your rush is and more imformation on your part about this quick paced, distant environment might lead to better input from posters.
Humbledog Posted June 8, 2005 Posted June 8, 2005 Originally posted by Lights That's nice. Unfortunately, where I come from it's not so easy. I'm always myself--that never was in question. However, not trying doesn't cut it around here. If you go around not trying to meet anyone out here, you will simply spend your days entirely isolated save for viewing people from a distance--people here don't do any approaching. Are you in prison? This is a problem. If I knew how to make any nearby given woman or any given pair of women immediately drop what she is/they are doing and hold a conversation it'd definitely be easier, provided, of course, that I too have the time in that given location to hold a conversation. Having time to converse isn't necessarily a given, though--that's why I asked for help on high-percentage forward approaches, in case chit-chatting just isn't going to happen. I do not know who Don Johnson is, though. Joking about the prison thing, but I think a better description of these fast paced,seemingly cold would help at lest me be more creative and are these environments job related? My second guess woul be antarctica!
Author Lights Posted June 9, 2005 Author Posted June 9, 2005 Hi Humbledog, Hehe nope, not in prison or in hell or anything at this time. The cold and distant environment seems to be everyday life around here. I've learned that it's apparently quite possible to be in even a massive swarm of humans and yet be entirely alone, whether it is against one's will or not. As far as fast-paced environments, it's not so much that I seek out fast-paced environments as much as the places I've happened to be in when I saw someone attractive walk by often happened not to lend itself to conversation (or in some cases, not without compromising my business or interfering with theirs). This kind of stuff happens only occasionally, and some examples of it would be in cases like while working out at the gym, in line about to check out when shopping, or leaving from night classes. None of these, as we both know, are prime environments for socializing. I'm just curious what one would do--I had such an encounter a couple weeks ago in the gym where someone I saw happened to pass by while I was in a rest period, and all I was able to do was say that I didn't want to interrupt her training and that I wanted to tell her I thought she was cute. She said thanks and smiled and disappeared. I haven't seen her since, but that can be for any reason, but maybe I could have seen her again if I had managed to quickly get a first meeting/date or phone number in time. Agh. Sorry if I'm whining too much.
Marshbear Posted June 9, 2005 Posted June 9, 2005 I would say if you act needy and in dire need women will pick up on your vibes and avoid you like the plaque. They have a sixth sense in these matters so you need to be cool and not come across as desperate. Be friendly and confident. Don't put so much pressure on the meeting. If meeting women is as sparse as you say then women must have the same problem meeting men where you live. I don't know how to maximize your short opportunity of meeting women. Just be friendly and let them know of your interest. If they have interest as well then you should be good to go. Peace...
Humbledog Posted June 9, 2005 Posted June 9, 2005 If I may be so bold, I think you have created this cold, distant, lonely plane in your own mind!!! It is simply your perspective holding you back!! Change your perspective because it is not real!! People are in places congregating because like you they wish to meet someone, just like you!! Relax, change your thinking, The 3 women you noticed alone are probably hoping someone would just come up and talk!!! No sharp line, Just Hi, I'm xxxxxxx, How's your life? Kidding but relax!!! You will have alot more fun!!!
Author Lights Posted June 23, 2005 Author Posted June 23, 2005 Originally posted by Marshbear Just be friendly and let them know of your interest. If they have interest as well then you should be good to go. Peace... Great job of stating the obvious. Generally if there's mutual interest both sides are good to go. The question was how to communicate one's own interest, arouse that interest in the other, and close the deal and return to what one was doing before, all very quickly given that the environment is fast-paced and/or not meant for chatting.
Marshbear Posted June 23, 2005 Posted June 23, 2005 Originally posted by Lights Great job of stating the obvious. Generally if there's mutual interest both sides are good to go. The question was how to communicate one's own interest, arouse that interest in the other, and close the deal and return to what one was doing before, all very quickly given that the environment is fast-paced and/or not meant for chatting. There is no need to be sarcastic. If you want information then you need to be polite and not attack the poster. What you are asking is how to be a player. There are many books on how to find, f*ck and forget the gal. I would suggest you need to change your way of thinking about yourself in getting a women. If you think she is the prize then your thinking is wrong ( in player terms ). You need to think that you are the prize and you go about getting her to find you irresistible. There are many ways to do this and I have not the inclination to tell you here. I would suggest getting a book on being a player.
Humbledog Posted June 24, 2005 Posted June 24, 2005 Originally posted by Marshbear There is no need to be sarcastic. If you want information then you need to be polite and not attack the poster. What you are asking is how to be a player. There are many books on how to find, f*ck and forget the gal. I would suggest you need to change your way of thinking about yourself in getting a women. If you think she is the prize then your thinking is wrong ( in player terms ). You need to think that you are the prize and you go about getting her to find you irresistible. There are many ways to do this and I have not the inclination to tell you here. I would suggest getting a book on being a player. mARSHBEAR, I must imform you the moderators took out a couple of posts that they must have deemed innaproppriate, therefor you are missing the whole dialog... Not your fault, I thought this was not supposed to occur... it did and caused this miscom...
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