Apparition Posted January 28, 2016 Posted January 28, 2016 What did you guys do today? How did you cope? Today I tried to keep myself distracted as much as possible but of course she entered my thoughts here and there. I'm about to go to bed in hopes tomorrow I feel less sh*tty. 2
louxor Posted January 28, 2016 Posted January 28, 2016 What did you guys do today? How did you cope? Today I tried to keep myself distracted as much as possible but of course she entered my thoughts here and there. I'm about to go to bed in hopes tomorrow I feel less sh*tty. Don't be worried about thoughts of her entering your mind, that is going to continue to happen for a long time. I'm about 6 months out of a break up and she still enters my mind several times per day, the difference is that it doesn't linger, and it doesn't hurt anymore, and hasn't for quite a few months now. She may pop into my head for whatever reason, it will do a few laps, and then it will be gone. The only thing I can say with 100% confidence that will help is time, and as cliched and over-stated as it is, that's the truth. You'll notice in a week, maybe two, that these thoughts of the ex become slightly less painful, and put you back for slightly less time, and so on for the weeks after. I didn't believe that time would help me at my lowest, but look where it's taken me now! 2
brothers343 Posted January 28, 2016 Posted January 28, 2016 The most precious commodity In this universe is TIME.....it will let you know that pain,anger, dissapointment, sadness, has a beginning but it also has an end and something else will take it's place when all is done. 1
Cee Posted January 28, 2016 Posted January 28, 2016 It's been 2 months since he left me and I'm in the process of buying him out of our home. It's been a horrible week dealing with the mortgage company. I'm angry and exhausted. I keep telling myself I'm almost through the storm, but it's a lot to deal with. I have my good moments and my bad. My daily life is just doing things I should--eat, exercise, work (at least try), and sleep. 1
Author Apparition Posted January 28, 2016 Author Posted January 28, 2016 amaysngrace, we went our separate ways just two/three days ago. However, I do not want things to end. Cee, I feel you on that, it's a real struggle to do simple things you normally would do, such as eat, sleep, exercise and even trying to relax is difficult.
Danielle4678 Posted January 28, 2016 Posted January 28, 2016 I was actually doing fairly well until I found out that my ex is already sleeping with someone else. Wow. Two months after our 7 year relationship ended? Pretty quick douchebag. 1
Author Apparition Posted January 28, 2016 Author Posted January 28, 2016 Danielle, how did you find out?
Brando Posted January 28, 2016 Posted January 28, 2016 Healing quickly. About 3 months post breakup, but we didn't truly separate until about 3 weeks ago. We continued seeing each other just like we were together for a couple months after the breakup talk. Then she just vanished on me after a long text saying she couldn't do it anymore. So really I was dumped once, got my hopes up for reconciling and then dumped again 3 weeks ago. It was pretty awful, but I hold no ill will toward her as she was a great girl. I just could have showed her more love than I did throughout our 2 year relationship. I am so motivated to heal properly and as quickly as possible. I am doing everything I can!! - blocked all social media account, including her friends and family because I will not jeopardize my healing process at the risk of seeing anything I don't want to. Is she dating someone new....maybe, but I will never know that and ignorance is bliss in this case. I don't need to open the wound again and it certainly isn't my business anymore!! - removed all reminders of her from my home - deleted all her and her friends contact info - Rearranged my home - new hair cut - gym time - therapy - journaling & meditation (cord cutting meditation is pretty cool) - herbal supplements to "help stabilize mood" - leaned on good friends and family - studied the science of a breakup to understand why I feel the way I do - changed my perspective to "learned a lot and had a great experience" - be good to myself, eat well, take vitamins, dress to impress, keep up with grooming - read books on dealing with loss, or self help - reflect back to a point in your life where you were single and alone, but you didn't care and you were perfectly content, be that person - embrace your new freedom, relationships are work, your job is done - this is your time!! The most important thing is letting go of hope and NC!! I cannot tell you how that has helped me become motivated to heal myself!! Even if they do come back around....(don't count on it) you will be healed and thinking more clearly. All you can do is heal. A lot of the healing techniques are out of character for me. If someone told me a year ago I'd be doing some of the stuff I am doing right now I would never believe them. Especially therapy, meditation and journaling, but really if someone suggested to drink pond water as it might help me....I'd do it!!! Be motivated, embrace the pain, feel it and know it will be there, but find new ways to use that energy. Let go of your ex completely. They came into your life for a reason and then you both are meant to continue your journeys through life separately. Try everything and expand your horizons. You are not hurt, you feel hurt You are not angry, you feel angry and so on and so on.....It's temporary
Danielle4678 Posted January 28, 2016 Posted January 28, 2016 Danielle, how did you find out? I was very stupid and looked on his eBay account. We used to follow each other as sellers and leave stupid feedback/bid on each other's stuff as a wind up. I got a notification saying he'd reached a certain milestone (100% positive feedback or whatever). The certain piece of feedback was from a seller that just sells condoms. So yeah. That was a nice way to find out. Entirely my own fault though. As horrible as it sounds it does help to hear other people's stories and realise that it isn't just you going through this horrible thing.
Brando Posted January 28, 2016 Posted January 28, 2016 I was very stupid and looked on his eBay account. We used to follow each other as sellers and leave stupid feedback/bid on each other's stuff as a wind up. I got a notification saying he'd reached a certain milestone (100% positive feedback or whatever). The certain piece of feedback was from a seller that just sells condoms. So yeah. That was a nice way to find out. Entirely my own fault though. As horrible as it sounds it does help to hear other people's stories and realise that it isn't just you going through this horrible thing. Ya.....don't do that...it hurts
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