BonerFide Posted January 28, 2016 Posted January 28, 2016 Hi ladies & gents! I'll try and keep this short. I was broken up with 4ish months ago by my first love, and it took me quite a while to get over him due to the fact I still was completely in love with him at the time of the BU. Cut to under three months later (more than a month ago now) and I'm learning to be happy without him, meanwhile ignoring all the stares/gazes directed my way from him and his friends, and... then he got a new girlfriend. I'm on the same campus as him (we both go to the same college) so seeing him regularly is inevitable, I haven't deliberately 'bumped into' him, I just happen to see him a lot is all. Anyway, I don't know much about the new girl besides the fact she stares at me a lot and sent me a friend request on Facebook. It is weird to see them together but I respect any relationship and would never be a homewrecker... but here's the thing, my ex still stares at me a lot, and his friends still try and talk to me at parties we happen to be at. One time I was sitting with my friend and we were just talking and laughing, someone up and left nearby and I realised as that happened it was my ex! He was on his own and just left, his friends arrived looking for him and he had gone. Am I overthinking things? I just think it's weird how he didn't seem to be over me and now he's in a new relationship. I feel pretty much over him, so should I just keep ignoring him? Is this normal? How the hell do you handle having to see your ex this much? Any help/thoughts appreciated
smudge21 Posted January 28, 2016 Posted January 28, 2016 His friends probably don't know what to do, so are just trying to be friendly. It can be awkward following a break up when each party has introduced friends or family. Try to just be yourself around them as they are with you. As for the ex and the whole situation, well to say you're seeing him often I think you're doing great. One of the hardest things for me was seeing my ex via work for months, it held me back for so long. I think you're on the right road and should divert or pull over for a stop for any reason. You can never know what's going on in someone's life or mind, and trying to work it out will just drive you crazy. Just concentrate on the one person who you know and love the most, you. 1
RySant Posted January 28, 2016 Posted January 28, 2016 To be that tough and for moving on so quickly, I salute you girl! I'll be weak if I were in your shoes, I will feel uncomfortable and might even cry hahaha! But yes, since you have the strength, just ignore them and focus on yourself. Maybe you'll find the next guy too! 1
Author BonerFide Posted January 28, 2016 Author Posted January 28, 2016 His friends probably don't know what to do, so are just trying to be friendly. It can be awkward following a break up when each party has introduced friends or family. Try to just be yourself around them as they are with you. As for the ex and the whole situation, well to say you're seeing him often I think you're doing great. One of the hardest things for me was seeing my ex via work for months, it held me back for so long. I think you're on the right road and should divert or pull over for a stop for any reason. You can never know what's going on in someone's life or mind, and trying to work it out will just drive you crazy. Just concentrate on the one person who you know and love the most, you. You're probably right here, actually. I found it a lot easier to completely ignore them as I didn't want to be in the situation where I was forcing small talk to be friendly while missing how we used to be close, lol. I also completely agree with what I put in bold; I see so much of it on these forums and I think it's a surefire way to just completely drive yourself up the wall. You honestly NEVER know what someone else is thinking; after all, think about how little other people like an ex know about what's going on in your mind. Probably not much. Thanks for the support! To be that tough and for moving on so quickly, I salute you girl! I'll be weak if I were in your shoes, I will feel uncomfortable and might even cry hahaha! But yes, since you have the strength, just ignore them and focus on yourself. Maybe you'll find the next guy too! Well, I salute you right back! Sometimes I think it's better to be sensitive, it means you have a bigger heart so the good moments in life and love will be even more magical. Having said that, I really took time after my break up to be on my own, I was firm in the decision to be single and in love with my life before I even considered getting involved in anything else. That's what got me to the place where I can still feel stable when confronting all of this s**t. There's no reason not to be strong and confident, everyone has it in them, it's just a case of exercising it like a muscle. I love this advice so thank you <3
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