Talldude43 Posted January 27, 2016 Posted January 27, 2016 Hi all, So back in 2014 I worked with this girl in the same department. We ended up being real close, we were in what she deemed to be the "talking phase". I've taken her home and she has even wanted to run errands together and go to the gym ect. She even was willing to give me a spare cell phone(mine was broken). We met in early of 2013. We ended up having a disagreement which ended up having neither of us talking for nearly 2 years. I was in another department during this time. It all changed on New Years Eve of 2015. She was promoted to another department back early of 2015 and had called me via company phone. She was calling to see if I'd take a job assignment. I jokingly told her I would do anything for her. She replied in a surprised voice Really? Her voice had gotten softer and she asked me how I have been? About a week or 2 later I get a text message from her saying to pick up any calls from work. To my surprise I was being asked if I wanted a better position within the company which I took. I later found out she contributed in helping me get the position, saying "I always remembered you wanting that position" She called me because I had asked her a question via text msg. We talked for 1 hour over the phone. She said she only remembers me asking her out(which she said we will see where it goes) and then we stopped talking. She had a hospital scare back in 2014 where she ended up with amnesia(memory loss). She's the master of subtle hints and me being a guy I can not pick them up too well. She even asked me if I was married or had any kids. I then asked her and she said no. We will be working together and seeing eachother more now. She mentioned this and said she wants someone that will make their voice heard in the office and we can give eachother high fives(wtf?). She mentioned that 1 of the guys in there is very timid and quiet. Looking on her Facebook it appears she has a boyfriend now and I don't want to intervene in their relationship. While we caught up she didn't mention a boyfriend at all. Sorry for the long post. Thoughts?
Davidjo Posted January 27, 2016 Posted January 27, 2016 Hi all, So back in 2014 I worked with this girl in the same department. We ended up being real close, we were in what she deemed to be the "talking phase". I've taken her home and she has even wanted to run errands together and go to the gym ect. She even was willing to give me a spare cell phone(mine was broken). We met in early of 2013. We ended up having a disagreement which ended up having neither of us talking for nearly 2 years. I was in another department during this time. It all changed on New Years Eve of 2015. She was promoted to another department back early of 2015 and had called me via company phone. She was calling to see if I'd take a job assignment. I jokingly told her I would do anything for her. She replied in a surprised voice Really? Her voice had gotten softer and she asked me how I have been? About a week or 2 later I get a text message from her saying to pick up any calls from work. To my surprise I was being asked if I wanted a better position within the company which I took. I later found out she contributed in helping me get the position, saying "I always remembered you wanting that position" She called me because I had asked her a question via text msg. We talked for 1 hour over the phone. She said she only remembers me asking her out(which she said we will see where it goes) and then we stopped talking. She had a hospital scare back in 2014 where she ended up with amnesia(memory loss). She's the master of subtle hints and me being a guy I can not pick them up too well. She even asked me if I was married or had any kids. I then asked her and she said no. We will be working together and seeing eachother more now. She mentioned this and said she wants someone that will make their voice heard in the office and we can give eachother high fives(wtf?). She mentioned that 1 of the guys in there is very timid and quiet. Looking on her Facebook it appears she has a boyfriend now and I don't want to intervene in their relationship. While we caught up she didn't mention a boyfriend at all. Sorry for the long post. Thoughts? First off I'd say if she has a boyfriend right now, don't hit on her. When that breaks up though, just cheekily filrt, but make sure you keep it light hearted and not too serious! But at the same time make sure your compliments are underhand. The reason for this is to safe guard yourself just incase she's not into you. By you playfully flirting with her this gives you the opportunity to pick up on her energy to see weather she likes you back, but you are not taking any risk as it would all be playful harmless fun. But whatever you do make sure you don't put her in an awkward situation where you end up diving in the deep end with her by seriously asking her straight out. Girls do not like that stuff, that would only be okay if you were 100% certain that she was in to you. So keep it light hearted and playful, laugh joke and flirt and then read her signals. From what you have said it could be a 50/50 as to weather she likes you like that. Good luck and let me know if there's anything I've said in particular that you'd like me to go into more detail on
Author Talldude43 Posted February 11, 2016 Author Posted February 11, 2016 First off I'd say if she has a boyfriend right now, don't hit on her. When that breaks up though, just cheekily filrt, but make sure you keep it light hearted and not too serious! But at the same time make sure your compliments are underhand. The reason for this is to safe guard yourself just incase she's not into you. By you playfully flirting with her this gives you the opportunity to pick up on her energy to see weather she likes you back, but you are not taking any risk as it would all be playful harmless fun. But whatever you do make sure you don't put her in an awkward situation where you end up diving in the deep end with her by seriously asking her straight out. Girls do not like that stuff, that would only be okay if you were 100% certain that she was in to you. So keep it light hearted and playful, laugh joke and flirt and then read her signals. From what you have said it could be a 50/50 as to weather she likes you like that. Good luck and let me know if there's anything I've said in particular that you'd like me to go into more detail on Thanks for the feedback. Update: Turns out she doesn't have a boyfriend and the guy that was on her page was actually her cousin, it randomly came up. She said a lot of her FB friends thought they were together too. I told her I thought she had a boyfriend and she said she hasn't really dated since the last time we stopped talking. She's slowly starting to call me now, but she is still so distant. I jokingly flirt while on the phone with her and she will say "timeout" or "stop"..she even said she needs a "homie right now (friend)". She's goofy like that 2 years ago .. when we were talking she would say these things..she gets embrassed or blushes. I got to see her all of last week at work..we keep it professional. I complimented her and she thanked me. She's hot and cold. I remember the day I got to see her again she welcomed me back by standing up and giving me a handshake (we were in the office and there's a camera inside there (understandable). We went to the back area and she gave 1 of our coworkers a hug, I never got a hug! Lol I'm at the point where I'm going to be indifferent towards her. I hate game playing, but I don't understand her.
fenix Posted February 11, 2016 Posted February 11, 2016 I would suggest don't mix work and relationship... to be blunt don't put your dick where you going to eat... Good luck whatever you decide to do.
Author Talldude43 Posted February 11, 2016 Author Posted February 11, 2016 I forgot to add, she brought up her age and then saying she still has no kids. I told her that's something you shouldn't rush like marriage ect. Because you don't want to have a messy divorce, she goes and says.. "I don't believe in divorce". I think I'm just a friend to her to be honest. She said I was her closest work friend. It was my fault 3 weeks prior calling her a friend. We never gave eachother titles.
Author Talldude43 Posted February 11, 2016 Author Posted February 11, 2016 I would suggest don't mix work and relationship... to be blunt don't put your dick where you going to eat... Good luck whatever you decide to do. Good advice, although I won't be working for this company next year.
Author Talldude43 Posted February 11, 2016 Author Posted February 11, 2016 She also said we have to "start over again"
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