JamesPIII Posted January 27, 2016 Posted January 27, 2016 Hey guys I've got a question, I've been seeing this woman for 2 months now and it seems her ex-husband can't let go. I'm just curious as to what I SHOULD do to take the high road because believe me I'm at my wits end and want to knock this guy out (I know it probably will make things worse.) He is exhibiting passive-aggressive type behavior, stealing our numbers of our mailbox and smaller things of that nature.
Httm Posted January 27, 2016 Posted January 27, 2016 This is for her to deal with, not you. How long has she been divorced? 1
Author JamesPIII Posted January 27, 2016 Author Posted January 27, 2016 This is for her to deal with, not you. How long has she been divorced? The papers were finalized back in September, but she insists that her marriage was over long before then, to answer your question 2 years.
sambolini Posted January 27, 2016 Posted January 27, 2016 This is for her to deal with, not you. How long has she been divorced? Agreed. This is her problem to deal with. I have always dealt with my ex wife entirely on my own; I have never expected any of my ex girlfriends to deal with her for me. If she won't take action to put a stop to it, I'd end the relationship. 1
Author JamesPIII Posted January 27, 2016 Author Posted January 27, 2016 Agreed. This is her problem to deal with. I have always dealt with my ex wife entirely on my own; I have never expected any of my ex girlfriends to deal with her for me. If she won't take action to put a stop to it, I'd end the relationship. What do you mean by you never expected any of your exes to deal with her for me?
sambolini Posted January 27, 2016 Posted January 27, 2016 What do you mean by you never expected any of your exes to deal with her for me? If my ex wife caused trouble (which happened from time to time), I took responsibility for dealing with it. I didn't tell my ex girlfriends "Oh, she's just like that" and expected them to just deal with it. One of my ex girlfriends had an ex who made her deal with his ex regarding their daughter. He pushed all responsibility for it on her. Which made me disgusted about him. I get not wanting to deal with an ex spouse, but I'm not going to push that off onto a current significant other. If her ex husband is causing problems and she's not dealing with it appropriately, that'd be a major red flag to me.
Httm Posted January 27, 2016 Posted January 27, 2016 The papers were finalized back in September, but she insists that her marriage was over long before then, to answer your question 2 years. Healing doesn't truly begin until divorce is final. That is a veeerrrry common line trotted out by people, and it is complete bull. If it was over so long ago, then she coild have divorced long ago. You are dealing with fire. She has years to heal and deal with post divorce life. 1
Author JamesPIII Posted January 28, 2016 Author Posted January 28, 2016 Healing doesn't truly begin until divorce is final. That is a veeerrrry common line trotted out by people, and it is complete bull. If it was over so long ago, then she coild have divorced long ago. You are dealing with fire. She has years to heal and deal with post divorce life. Well that's just great I signed a 6 month lease with this minx lol it's all good, I value the insight.
Rockdad Posted January 28, 2016 Posted January 28, 2016 My ex is my problem, my wife's ex is her problem. Support your GF but stay out of you dealing with it. There is a lot of truth to post divorce issues and nightmares.
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