Maratarley Posted January 27, 2016 Posted January 27, 2016 (edited) So for starters, I am 23 and was pursued by a 35 year old man that I work with. He ran smooth game on me, pumping stuff into my head and saying things that I ultimately fell for. We went on a couple really long dates, no sex but we did make out heavily. We talked about serious topics. I was sort of conflicted on my feelings for him at the time, mainly because my gut was telling me something was off although I was SO attracted to him. He came onto me like no man ever has before and I was loving the attention. So all of this lasted about a month, until about 2 weeks ago when he dumped me via text telling me he was going back to his ex (who he said he had a really rough break up with). He said he would be down to be buds, didn't want to string me along, etc. But ultimately that's exactly what he ended up doing. So I responded "thanks for being honest with me. Best of luck to you". Then the next day, when my anger settled in as a result of feeling played, I sent him an angry Facebook message. I didn't attack his character or anything, but I basically said that he pumped stuff into my head and then dropped me when something better came along, so we couldn't be friends. I also said please don't put me in the situation of pretending that I have to be nice to you at work either. Have a nice life. So now at work it's SO awkward, and I feel like it is for him too. I constantly catch him staring at me and when we cross paths, he either looks at me for a second then quickly glances away or avoids eye contact at all. His friend sends me angry glances all the time. And I'm pretty sure he posted a bitter sounding status aimed at me on Facebook. I'm still hurting a LOT from this breakup, because I really did think it would turn into something serious and I've never been in a serious relationship before. But now I'm grappling with "should I have sent him this message?" Because now I feel like a piece of **** even if I still don't really want to be friends right now just because it will open an old wound. I just want him to feel like he can at least be civil with me. I don't think it's fair that it's awkward for him at work sometimes now. I'm also secretly hoping he comes back eventually. Should I apologize? Or will it be another ego boost for him and just make me look desperate. Please help!! Edited January 27, 2016 by Maratarley
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