Jay13094 Posted January 27, 2016 Posted January 27, 2016 long story short- i thought this guy was single as he told me he was. We work together (part-time not professional job) and well i liked him and pursued him. There was a girl supposedly he was dating so i asked her and she said "what? no! go for it!" so... i did. It took a while for him to ask me out on a date but he did 2 months later. Date went great, we kissed. 2 weeks later we started sleeping with each other and it became a routine for about 3 months. We would see each other twice at work and once outside of work. The relationship was at first very physical based- but he ended up having feelings for me and it seemed like he cared but something about him was always shady. He told me he was not ready or want a relationship at the moment. I said it was fine as long as he wasn't sleeping with other people (which he obviously said he wasn't). Turns out he's been in a year relationship with that girl i asked about but their whole relationship has been a secret. So she told me that it was ok, because he somehow brain-washed her into being fearful of telling people they are together. He basically wants no one to know and the best part is that they practically live together. They're with each other everyday and tells her he's going out with friends when he comes to see me. Its a very very very messy situation but he basically cheated on both of us. more so her than me since we weren't too official but we got to the point where it was a "relationship" of a sort. yesterday he told me he wanted to explain himself cz i blocked him on my phone right away and all he said was that he was really sorry and that he wanted me and didn't want to lose me which is why he kept lying. My birthdays this weekend and he told me "i know i never did anything for you but i was waiting for your birthday to get you something special.. but i didn't make it that far" like what???? u have a damn gf like what is your problem?? He's been lying to her for months and still has been right til a couple days ago. But he told her that he would wait for her, and i was well hurt also cz its just like he chose her? but she always takes him back so she's just blinded. She broke up w/ him so i'm glad he ended up with nothing but I'm still hurt and just want him to feel like CRAP. For lying to me and leading me on and everything. We talked at work for like 20 minutes and i ended up walking out on him because he was just so full of it. No I don't not want to be with him anymore but I still want him to be able to hear everything i had to say and felt.... do you think thats wrong? as in i shouldn't even be doing it and that i'm wasting my time into something that doesn't even deserve to hear??? its just unsettling how easy he's getting off (that girl is so nic so she wouldn't do anything) but he said he regrets just messing it up with two really good, loyal, girls. I don't need a response from him. I just want him to hear it.
mightycpa Posted January 27, 2016 Posted January 27, 2016 If you were a guy, I'd tell you to be damn glad that you're not the one who's kidding yourself about a relationship, but that you are the one probably getting the best sex out of the deal, no strings attached, so chill and enjoy! Does that resonate at all with you in terms of comfort? Where's that gender equality **** when you really need it!?
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