soph-walker Posted January 26, 2016 Posted January 26, 2016 How big of a deal is this to you ladies/gents? Do you happily give out your mobile number over Tinder/whatever OLD platform you use, with the intention of meeting up with a person? Do you refuse to give it out until you've met up with said date and have judged they're not an ax-wielding murderer?
SwordofFlame Posted January 26, 2016 Posted January 26, 2016 I give it out about 95% of the time. 100% especially if the other person doesn't have the dating apps on their phone. Otherwise how could they respond if they have an emergency or an "unfortunate" change of plans....
fitnessfan365 Posted January 26, 2016 Posted January 26, 2016 Just my opinion. But I think it's a great idea to have a phone call before meeting. Not a super long one. Just like 10-15 minutes. You get a slight insight into their personality, if they can hold a conversation in real time, etc.. I mean it takes way more confidence and social skills to talk on the phone, than exchange texts. In general it's a huge time saver. If you hate the call, you just don't make plans. 1
MissBee Posted January 26, 2016 Posted January 26, 2016 I don't like to meet anyone I haven't spoken on the phone with or at least Snapchatted with (so I can see a real time video of them). I cannot imagine showing up for an in person date with someone I've not spoken to on the phone before....that would be tremendously awkward for me personally. A prior phone convo gets the banter going and builds some rapport so when we meet face to face I don't feel like you're a complete stranger (or have some weird voice I don't like ). I have never had any problems giving my number out. If I didn't want to see a guy anymore, he might text me a few times or call but would stop. I can also block numbers. I haven't had any issues with anything untoward happening because a guy had my cell number.
Jejangles Posted January 26, 2016 Posted January 26, 2016 I freely (perhaps too freely) give my number out. I have never had an issue with it, no one has ever been inappropriate or misused it. And I also go on first dates without ever having spoken to the person live. I actually don't really like talking on the phone prior to meeting - I'm not a big phone person and I find it harder to have a good flow to the conversation without seeing their face. And Skype / Facetime make me more nervous than a date. As I live in a big urban centre, and am right downtown, there's no issue for me in meeting up with someone for a quick drink after work. If they lived further away, I guess I'd be up for a quick call or Skype, but I'd really rather not... 1
Redhead14 Posted January 26, 2016 Posted January 26, 2016 How big of a deal is this to you ladies/gents? Do you happily give out your mobile number over Tinder/whatever OLD platform you use, with the intention of meeting up with a person? Do you refuse to give it out until you've met up with said date and have judged they're not an ax-wielding murderer? What difference does it make? If they start harrassing you, whatever, you can block their number. If you're going to meet up, it would be courtesy to exchange numbers in case one or both of you is running late or lost or some kind of emergency. You could give you number to a guy IRL and he could still blow up your phone or harrass you, etc. 1
Author soph-walker Posted January 26, 2016 Author Posted January 26, 2016 What difference does it make? If they start harrassing you, whatever, you can block their number. If you're going to meet up, it would be courtesy to exchange numbers in case one or both of you is running late or lost or some kind of emergency. You could give you number to a guy IRL and he could still blow up your phone or harrass you, etc. Makes no difference to me, I was asking for opinions, I'm genuinely curious to see what people think I am curious to know from a guy's PoV why he would only use social media/in app messaging platform prior to meeting, then once a date had been underway, still be reluctant to swap numbers despite planning for a second date, anyone? Purely speculative of course:o
Philosopher Posted January 26, 2016 Posted January 26, 2016 Just my opinion. But I think it's a great idea to have a phone call before meeting. Not a super long one. Just like 10-15 minutes. You get a slight insight into their personality, if they can hold a conversation in real time, etc.. I mean it takes way more confidence and social skills to talk on the phone, than exchange texts. In general it's a huge time saver. If you hate the call, you just don't make plans. I too agree. I have generally found that dates go considerably better if I have chatted to them before on the phone before meeting up. However I have found that in practice it can be quite tricky to have a phone call before meeting up. Most of the time I find that if I call them the call goes to voicemail and it is rarely returned, even if I do tell them to expect a call. Therefore normally I find I have to rely on texting to arrange the meetup. I suspect the dates going better after chat on the phone could be because those whom are the most keen in meeting up are the ones whom make the effort to pick up the phone or return the call.
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