Vincenator Posted January 26, 2016 Posted January 26, 2016 My ex girlfriend broke up with me a few weeks ago after being together for a year and a half. I've been in NC for the last two weeks, and she hasn't contacted me since. We went through 2 short lived breakups (lasted only a few hours), and the third final one. Each time she told me she just wasn't interested in me and wanted to be free and single again. I also told her that when she's ready to be in a relationship again, if she would consider getting back together, and she said that she doesn't think her feelings for me will ever come back. This came really unexpected to me and it has really devastated me for a while lol but I think I'm starting to get better. I was just curious under what category this breakup would be in... like GIGS? Or does that only apply when she runs off with someone else? She told me there wasn't another guy in the background or anything, but of course I would never know if this is true. But after knowing her for so long, it would be really out of her character if she did fall for another guy behind the scenes and hid it, and broke up with me to be with someone else.
PegNosePete Posted January 26, 2016 Posted January 26, 2016 Look Vince, you need to not care about this. It doesn't matter if she has GIGS or BPD or ONS or FWB or NASA. The harsh fact is that she broke up with you because she does not want to be in a relationship with you any more. Trying to put her into some kind of category or acronym is brain-power that is much better spend elsewhere. Like taking up a new hobby or finding a souffle recipe or planning a new vacation! 3
Brando Posted January 26, 2016 Posted January 26, 2016 Sorry buddy. It doesn't matter why she left. As much as it hurts it's not your business anymore and learning why she left will never help you anyway. It could potentially just hurt you worse. Go NC immediately and be kind to yourself. Accept the loss and lose the hope of her returning (it only hurts for longer if you don't). It's completely out of your hands now. I know it hurts, but you have to face he reality of the situation. Respect her decision and move forward to bigger and better things. Exercise, keep a journal, lean on friends and family, find new hobbies. Read articles and books on how to heal properly. After time you will be fine, but please delete her from you life to make this process as easy as you can on yourself. 1
Toodaloo Posted January 26, 2016 Posted January 26, 2016 She left because she doesn't want to be with you and you asking to be considered later just reaffirmed that. Stay away and get over her. 2
mightycpa Posted January 26, 2016 Posted January 26, 2016 What is GIGS, after all? It means she thinks she can do better than you. If she loved you, there would be no better than you. But because she doesn't, if you can admit you're not the greatest guy in the world, that there are some guys out there who are more handsomerichsmartniceathleticsexythe list goes on and on then you can understand why she's out there looking around. Life's too long to be stuck with someone you don't love. THAT is why she left you. Conversely, if you can convince yourself that there are other girls out there who are more prettyrichsmartniceathleticsexythe list goes on and on that might be interested in you, you'll see that it's not the end of the world. Find yourself a few, and you might end up thanking your lucky stars. 2
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