I am an idiot when it comes to love. Has he lost interest?

[telepathy]

So I have been having an online "romance" with this amazing guy who lives 9 hours away, and we've been talking on the regular since September and we have plans to meet up as soon as we take care of a few things in our personal lives (moving, car payment), and he has expressed a great deal of excitement over it. However, I am a little confused by his behaviour lately and I am not sure if it's normal or if I should worry that he has lost interest, and I am hoping that some of you have some insight. Here it goes:

 

So for the past couple of months we have been talking very regularly. Conversations through the night was a normal thing, often keeping each other up way past our bedtime. He would also try to reply to my messages as quickly as he could, and if he couldn't, he would tell me so. It was lovely. Our chemistry is flawless and our desire for each other is deep.

 

However, after starting my new job, he stopped replying to my messages quickly. We haven't had a real conversation. No late night messaging. However, he does send me some sort of message at least once a day, often expressing warm feelings. If he feels like I might not be feeling well or unhappy somehow, he picks up on it emmediately and offers comfort and love. When something good happens in my life, he will express excitement and joy. Sometimes he will simply send his love. But when I ask him how he is doing, his answer is always short and simple. He hasn't gone into detail about what is going on his life for almost two weeks now, and it makes him seem so much more distant than usual. He DID offer an unsolicited apology five or so days ago, telling me that he is sorry he hasn't been around lately, but he has been super busy with his work and child. I told him that he didn't need to apologize and I understand that he has a life, but what I didn't say is that I wonder why he would try before, but not now? Has something changed? He hasn't even looked at my last message I sent two days ago, yet he has been online since then.

 

Anyway. I miss him, but I dont want to put any effort into someone who may have lost interest.

[Httm]

9 hours awaybis fantasy. You know truly nothing about him. Find someone local and real.

[bachdude]

This can be difficult to go from so close to suddenly distant.

 

I was going to suggest that you just ask him but I realized that he did give an explanation as to the change in behavior on his part.

 

It may be that the long communications with you resulted in him neglecting other important things and people in his life and he is reestablishing a balance so to speak.

 

Some people who are introverts also need some time away from relationships, if they have been intense, to "recharge". If you suspect this is the case, just give him some space.

 

So I would just give him some time and space and see how it unfolds. Maybe occupy yourself to help keep your mind off of it. It may be that he will appreciate a woman who has the security to do this.

 

Since he is the one who is pulling away, let him be the one to bring up when to meet you. You may want to have a time limit in your own mind as to how long you are willing to wait before meeting.

 

Good luck!