Gm2420 Posted January 25, 2016 Posted January 25, 2016 Here's the backstory. My ex and I dated 5 years, she was head over heels for me. She was the first serious relationship I ever had. She'd do ANYTHING for me. After three years, I pulled the douchebag move and wanted to date other people and it broke her heart. I also talked to some girl in the first three years (yes I know, I'm the biggest ******* ever). She cried and didn't want me to leave but I left anyway. A month after that three year breakup, I went into the hospital for surgery for Diverticulitis (karma). She even came to see me more than anyone else did. A coupletter months after me leaving the hospital, we got back together. Those following years after that, I didn't spend all my time with her, we went on vacations but I always brought a friend or two (wasnt other girls but it still wasn't alone time) and I didn't realize that was hurting her. I never knew what it was like to be treated like that. I was always sweet to her but it was just the principles of being in love with someone I wasn't acting on. I didn't know what I was doing to her. She dealt with it for two years and finally she got fed up with me. We broke up 5 months ago and I was devastated because I wasn't ever expecting her to ever make that decision. I still cry just thinking about it. I even proposed to her half a year before breaking up with her. It was the perfect proposal. Her favorite band in the entire world was finally coming to a city that wasn't 6 or 7 hours away and it was on our 5 year anniversary and I even messaged the band if they could do something for us because I knew how happy it would make her. She said she wasn't ready. I couldn't even realize that she was falling out of love with me. But after the official breakup, she started dating her ex a week afterwards. I started dating someone two months afterwards and we're going great but she seems to be like how I was when I dated my ex. It took me going through my current relationship to realize how ****ty I was to her. But the past month, my current gf has been showing some serious affection/love towards us. We spend almost every day with each other and I realized that's what I wasn't doing with my ex after a couple years. Quality alone time. She deserved a man and someone to treat her like the woman she deserved to be treated. Last Saturday, I went to a party with our friends (my ex and I have the same friends) and I walked outside for a second and she follows me. We have a long talk and she tells me that she broke up with me to teach me a lesson. I was never going to learn how I was treating her until I was treated like she was. She wanted me to grow up and I feel like I've matured more in the past 5 months than I have the 5 years before. Now I'm caught between a rock and a hard place because she wants me back and is even thinking of a way to tell her ex she doesn't want him anymore but the current gf seems to be in love with me. She wants to spend every second with me and is already rubbing off on me. She even asks me all the time if I'll leave her for my ex (almost all of her past boyfriends left her for their ex's) And to be honest, I was never really over my ex. But I really like this new girl. They both care about me a lot. I know my ex still loves me and I love her but I don't want to treat my new girlfriend like **** when she's been nothing but sweet to me except a bit clingy especially when she's so insecure about me leaving her and I've told her so many times I won't leave her. I had no intentions of leaving her until this past Saturday. I'd also like to throw in the second I asked my new gf out, I had this gut feeling she was going to cheat on me but that was probably my guilty soul from how I treated my ex.
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