Lucia16 Posted January 25, 2016 Posted January 25, 2016 We broke up almost 1 month ago because I came back home (I was studying abroad) and he was acting very cold towards me since that day (answering my messages 1 or 2 days late) then suddenly he was sweet, telling me how much he miss me and that he will never find a girl like me. The next day he was cold again telling me that I have to move on and he even told me "you need to sleep with someone else" Then he ignored me for a week and yesterday he was sweet again. He asked me if I was seeing someone and he told me that I didn't need to have sex with someone else because we have a lot of moments. Why he always appears and then disappears? And most important. Why he always do this when I am finally moving on?
smackie9 Posted January 25, 2016 Posted January 25, 2016 He is yoyoing emotionally. He wants to be with you, but knows the distance is making it too difficult. He knows this is going nowhere, and he needs to move on but is finding it so hard to do so. Help him out by lying to him that you have met someone else and want to go no contact with him.
TaraMaiden2 Posted January 25, 2016 Posted January 25, 2016 We broke up almost 1 month ago because I came back home (I was studying abroad) and he was acting very cold towards me since that day (answering my messages 1 or 2 days late) then suddenly he was sweet, telling me how much he miss me and that he will never find a girl like me. The next day he was cold again telling me that I have to move on and he even told me "you need to sleep with someone else" Then he ignored me for a week and yesterday he was sweet again. He asked me if I was seeing someone and he told me that I didn't need to have sex with someone else because we have a lot of moments. Why he always appears and then disappears? And most important. Why he always do this when I am finally moving on? Sorry - the general advice (and advice I would seriously urge you to follow) is to cut off all contact and never respond. Please read the NC Guide in my signature. Hurt as it might, you really need to terminate all contact with him, without any exception. The mystery is not why he's doing what he's doing, but why you permit yourself to be repeatedly drawn into his 'game'. The Game will only stop when you stop batting the ball back.... 2
Redhead14 Posted January 25, 2016 Posted January 25, 2016 We broke up almost 1 month ago because I came back home (I was studying abroad) and he was acting very cold towards me since that day (answering my messages 1 or 2 days late) then suddenly he was sweet, telling me how much he miss me and that he will never find a girl like me. The next day he was cold again telling me that I have to move on and he even told me "you need to sleep with someone else" Then he ignored me for a week and yesterday he was sweet again. He asked me if I was seeing someone and he told me that I didn't need to have sex with someone else because we have a lot of moments. Why he always appears and then disappears? And most important. Why he always do this when I am finally moving on? Because you are allowing him to . . . go no contact and stay that way. Even if he's just wavering about the break up, the fact that you are entertaining texts from him and responding, doesn't make it any easier. And, if he's playing with you, the answer is the same.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 25, 2016 Posted January 25, 2016 He's probably doing this because he's slept or is sleeping with someone else. But he wants to keep you around as a back-up. Stop permitting him to treat you this way. He's an ex. Time to really treat him like one.
Glass Hut Posted January 25, 2016 Posted January 25, 2016 He is yoyoing emotionally. He wants to be with you, but knows the distance is making it too difficult. He knows this is going nowhere, and he needs to move on but is finding it so hard to do so. Help him out by lying to him that you have met someone else and want to go no contact with him. I like this answer the best. The no contact thing is bull****. It's much nicer this way, for both parties.
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