Does she like me or not?

[TheCourtJester]

This is the next big hard thing. I don't know where it's going. I haven't been in the date scene for a very long time. So making conversation and being a funny guy in person is proving to be difficult.

Now I'm not saying I'm dating this woman. I been talking to her. I visited a couple times and I overly enjoy the company she offers. Even tho we throw on the tv and sit in silence. And she make break out her cell phone. But that could be just because it's about her kids. Or she just ain't the type to ignore everyone when she has company.

Now this is the strange part. Ever since day one I met her at the place I work. (She is a customer) I fell in love with her attitude, smile, laugh, and her looks.(she is beautiful) She is the woman that had me at hello.

 

We are both recently separated so I don't want to push much at all. But I can't go a day without waking up wanting to text her good morning and have a great day.

I wake up and look to see if she wrote me. But she hasn't. I don't think too much about it if she doesn't. But I do think about it. Does she like me or she only talk to me when I talk to be nice. It sucks but I wait a day and I'll send a hey how are things, work and if she's ok. And we will talk for a little bit and then one of us just stop texting for whatever reason. Got busy or went out and driving etc.

Now I guess I'm trying to figure out if she likes me.(same way I do)

She asked few days ago when I work till. I told her and I offered to bring did.near over and she accepted:-)

It was a great night. I got to spend the evening with a woman I only saw at work when she needed her car fixed so not often. That night ended good awesome hug at the end. I wrote her after saying thanks and it was fun and I had a good time. She said same thing. Now a day or almost 2 days go by and I didn't hear anything so I wrote hey how's things etc. And it started a conversation which was good. And then the weekend came about Saturday I hung out with my kids while my ex. The mother went out. And it was awesome. I woke up in morning not hearing anything from her(New woman) So I wrote her and started a conversation and it turned out with eventually if I had something she needed and I had the thing. So I went over around 2pm and hung out for a bit. It ended up with her asking if I wanted to stay for dinner (was it cause I wasn't leaving so she being polite)

I accepted and ate:-) thinking in my mind is she just being polite cause I didn't leave yet. Well after dinner tidied up a bit and then we watch bit more tv with small talk here and there. And then I decided it was smoke time and we both went out and I started my vehicle. We had a little small talk before I left. And then she said I should give you a hug and thanks for coming. And I said thanks for having me. And sorry I don't talk much and dinner was great thanks. And she said. Hey dont apologize . Conversation is sometimes over rated and she enjoyed having someone over. I ended up leaving and went home.

Now I'm thinking even more about her because I got to spend more time with her and even though it's quiet. I overly enjoyed it. This woman. She just makes me happy being around her. I never had this. Even with my ex. I mean I had good days with my ex .but The new woman. Man she has me thinking about her day in and day out.

What are other people's thoughts.

[Robratory]

Hi, and welcome to Love Shack!

 

Your question and any imaginable variation on it is unanswerable. If you don't know, and you're right there, how could we possibly know without being there?

 

So your question always has the same answer: talk to her. You have to get romantic. There's just no shortcut. There's no way to hedge your bets in such a way that you can proceed with absolute certainty. You'll just have to make a move.

 

And you should make it quickly because there's usually a rather small window unless she has a really serious crush on you. Don't let her get used to seeing you as a pal. If you wait too long, and then make your move, by then she might see you as nothing but a friend.

 

It doesn't have to be awkward. It would be awkward if, completely out of the blue, you grabbed her and tried to kiss her. But it doesn't sound like you've even complimented her or flirted with her, so start doing that. Pick an appropriate feature of hers that you like, and say something, "You have really beautiful eyes." If she seems to like that, follow up with something like, "I have a big crush on you, you know?"

 

Move forward or back off depending on her reaction, but if you have to back off, don't come back later. She's not interested so put her out of your mind, though continue treating her with courtesy at your workplace, of course.

 

What you say about the work situation does bring up a caution, though. I flirted with and dated customers at a computer repair business where I once worked. But I also quickly learned that many of our customers were pretty wealthy, and though they were very nice, they were not interested in dating the technician. Not everyone, of course. Poor girls were customers too.