Is this a cold approach to a sexual relationship? Or am I expecting too much foreplay

[Hopeful30]

I'm extremely sexually attracted to B, and these tensions are obvious at work (thank goodness we don't see each other often, I get distracted). Anyways, he never initiated before, but now he has...only all of his suggestions are always near a bedroom (my place, your place) or evening on the beach, or somewhere else quiet where we can have sex.

 

Even though that's my current intention with him (yummy), I expect a little more build-up than a last minute message to see each other the following day in an intimate setting. At least not yet, because we haven't even had sex yet! We've never even hung out outside of work! We barely speak...

 

I feel like sex should also have a way to start and develop (and a lot of it has nothing to do with nakedness). Call me old-fashioned, but I expect a little more foreplay than that...or is this how sex works these days?

 

I feel like he's jumping the gun (if that's the expression), but I'm not sure if it's that, or if my expecting to be seduced (rather than laid) is too demanding/old-fashioned for this kind of thing.

 

Not sure if it matters but he's younger, in his early twenties.

Edited January 25, 2016 by Hopeful30

[smackie9]

He is immature and just wants to hump ya like a slobbering dog.....just the way he is....there is no need for seduction because he has no intention of dating you or getting emotionally involved with you. He has no interest in romancing you.

[Hopeful30]

For first time sex, surely taking you out for a quickie without even having a proper conversation (other than minimal work interaction) is too cold?

[Ami1uwant]

You are a booty call...

 

You need yo actually have dates with him.

 

What makes these tensions so obvious at work..I'm curious??

[Hopeful30]

 

What makes these tensions so obvious at work..I'm curious??

 

Sexual remarks from both ends, minimal touching (hand knee, mini neck massage, other little trinkets), and he always asks about my sexual preferences and opinions.

 

Unless I'm reading him wrong of course.

[Ami1uwant]

Sexual remarks from both ends, minimal touching (hand knee, mini neck massage, other little trinkets), and he always asks about my sexual preferences and opinions.

 

Unless I'm reading him wrong of course.

 

Sometimes you could make sexual innuendos with someone you felt nothing eould ever happen.

[xxoo]

He may not want to lead you on expecting a relationship. If it's just sex, then it's just sex.