Gold Pile Posted January 25, 2016 Posted January 25, 2016 A decade ago I was dumped by a girl I was starting to fall for. Not as bad as being dumped from a LTR but it still hurt some. I googled for a little guidance.....I found LS. Instead of posting my heartache, I posted my plan for future dating ("Appearing Wealthy to Attract Dates"). It generated both support and outrage, my heartache evaporated. Several years ago I moved to a new town that happened to be farther away from her town. Yesterday I was surprised to see her (from a distance) in my town. I find it quite fateful that she shows up just as I'm getting ready to exit LS forever. She was the reason I came here. She still looks good, she looks troubled. She had some nice qualities but the negatives outweighed the pro s. Thank God she dumped me! She apparently works at a place that frequent. I won't risk her getting under my skin again, I won't go to that place anymore 1
Chi townD Posted January 25, 2016 Posted January 25, 2016 Ummm...dude, that was a decade ago. I think you should be moved on since then. If you need to avoid the place she works, then so be it. Do what's best for you. 1
Author Gold Pile Posted January 25, 2016 Author Posted January 25, 2016 Ummm...dude, that was a decade ago. I think you should be moved on since then. If you need to avoid the place she works, then so be it. Do what's best for you.I certainly moved on long ago. I just note the irony that she reappears now. 1
kidm Posted January 25, 2016 Posted January 25, 2016 I certainly moved on long ago. I just note the irony that she reappears now. You've moved on but won't go to a place she now works at for fear of her getting under your skin? Also how is she "back"? did she ask to reconcile or did you just see her from afar? Did she even see you? Why do you assume she would get under your skin? 1
Toodaloo Posted January 26, 2016 Posted January 26, 2016 GP I have an ex. Well I have several but there is a specific one I will talk about here. He broke my heart. He broke my spirit. He broke my brain. Upon splitting up with him I had a nervous break down and I couldn't be near him. For YEARS I would shake, cry, avoid. At the beginning of last year (same day as a friends funeral) I saw him and I thought for once in my life I am going to stop being afraid and I am going to talk to this man. I asked why. He came up with some lame ass excuse. We spoke about other things and I realised that him dumping me was the best thing that had ever happened or I would be stuck blindly adoring this crusty old, self centred, jack ass who was rude and had his head so far up his own back side that he wouldn't notice if someone used it as target practice. I admit I cried after. 11 blinking years all built up... I cried because all those wasted years feeling completely unworthy of love. All those years of wondering why. All those years thinking I was to blame that it was my fault. All those years of punishing myself. All those years of torturing myself and the reason? Because he was a dick. Nothing more or less. What a waste of time that was. He is not the person I thought he was. He ditched me when he couldn't keep up the act any longer. Get on with it. Go to the places you like to go to and sod it if she is there. Funny thing is now this ex avoids me... I smile and wave a cheery hello when I see him and he just looks... ashamed and embarrassed. Oh and old... he looks really old... 1
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